Hey, I just turned 20 a few months ago and realized I have no best friends. I have people I consider "close", and there's "people I know", but no best friends.
Every time I hang out with people it's like I'm a third wheel. I don't have a lot in common with other people. All they do is talk about their interests, or about people I don't know. Every time I hang out with them I sit there and try to understand and engage but ultimately fail.
Everyone in my friend group knows about each other's personal lives and issues, it's like they're a family. A while back I opened up about something really serious in my life that I was going through to someone in my friend group I considered pretty close. They said "Oh damn. That's unfortunate," and like nothing else beyond that. Meanwhile another friend of this person went through a little bit of relationship drama but they were calling, spending time with, and overall was really taking care of this person. It's the same sort of thing for other people in my group, I just don't get it.
There's one person who considers me one of their "closest" friends, but it confuses me because we only see each other once or twice a year and never call or text. When we do have our yearly hang-out it's deep and personal, and it's so engaging and we talk about all sorts of topics. I wish I could have conversations like that all the time, but this person rarely talks to me and has literally 100 other friends.
I'm quiet, but people consider me funny and I always make sure to help people out. It's like there's sort of a barricade between me and other people that's keeping me from having best friends.
I'd like to know how other people got their best friends, and what interacting with them is like? Do you talk often? If you have different interests, what do you talk about? Would your best friend consider you theirs as well, and why?