Men with abusive fathers, what do you do to remind yourself you are not like your dad at all and move on?

I’ve been struggling with this question myself for my entire life and I figure I’d ask to gain some perspective.

Edit: Thanks for the responses. My dad was physically, verbally, and mentally abusive. He even physically abused his pet dogs. His dad abused him, so I guess it is a cycle of fathers hurting sons now that I think about it. He never drank, but he smoked religiously. And he was a high school drop out.