I'm 25f. In the past few years, I had a rough experience with friendships. I learned that no one from my former friend group reached out to me when I stopped reaching out to them first.
I formed friendships from my old work but discovered that our department is a tight knit community that if one knows about a juicy information about the other, then the rest will probably know too. So I kept them at bay – so much so that I've only shared my social media to a handful of them. It felt risky to trust them with personal stories.
One of my bestfriends kept giving me excuses when I try to make plans to hangout so I pulled away. Now, I feel like I'm outgrowing my other bestfriend. She says things that I don't align with, but I have nothing but love for the both of them.
Recently, I've started at a new job and I'm glad to have made a new friend. Our conversations flow easily and I feel at ease being more open with her. It made me realize how long its been since I've had a good deep chat with someone close to my age.
My life consists of work, gym, and bonding with my parents and sibling. As thankful as I am to have those privileges, I find myself longing to be a part of a group. Where I can send memes, organize hangouts, give and receive support whenever it's needed.
I'm getting tired of bringing myself to "solo dates". Work has taken over my life recently and I feel like I'm getting crankier by the day.
Kind advice is appreciated. Thanks.