Last year, I thought I would give Hinge a go for the first time. It was my first experience using a dating app, and I ended up deleting my account within an hour because I was so overwhelmed, lol. I ended up recreating a new account a few weeks later, and actually talked to a guy and went on a date (success!), however, I realized I still wasn't healed from my ex, so I deleted my account again.
A few months later, I decide to try again. I have a lovely conversation with a man, but he ghosts me. I was also getting really overwhelmed with how LONG our messages were getting, and decide to delete my profile again in order to re-evaluate how I'm showing up in dating.
A few months after that, I try again. This time, I delete my account without talking to anyone. I take a good… I don't know. 6 months, maybe? Away from the apps. Then, I made an account again… but also deleted it without talking to anyone.
The past two times, the account deletions have been related to safety concerns – not that men have been creepy to me, but because I was just really hesitant about meeting up with a strange man, because I had been hearing a lot of stories about people getting stalkers from dating apps and all this at the time. But then, go figure, a friend of a friend decides he is OBSESSED with me and refuses to take no for an answer, and that experience made me realize that creeps are everywhere, online or not. I was also spending a lot of time on the AskWomenOver30 subreddit, and noticed how many women mentioned meeting their husbands on Hinge.
So. All that to say – I think I am FINALLY ready to give Hinge a proper go. I am completely over my ex, I feel secure in who I am, I have good self-worth, and I've gotten really good at setting boundaries. I also recognize that I am an introvert, so I don't meet people out in the wild all that much, so if I really want to date, Hinge is my best bet, I think.
But… now I feel self-conscious about trying again, because of just how many times I have created and deleted my profile. Would it be weird to try again? Should I cut my losses? Or, is it not too much and it's fine to give it another go?