My friend’s husband 40M recently had an affair with a woman at church. And he abruptly left her telling her he never loved her and only married her because she was there. He is declaring his love for this new woman while at the same time.
My friend is being told by her husband that she must forgive the mistress to be right with god. And my friend did. And now they are trying to be one big blended family with her and her daughter (9) and the other woman’s kids( 16,9,7). My friend is now using the mistress as emotional support and they are shopping together and best friends. It’s very sick and convoluted and they are basically concubines now.
I am having issues stomaching this level of delusion. I am losing respect for this woman. We’ve been close a long time but now, I cannot stand by and pretend this is normal or ok. I know if I say anything against what is going on, she will fight me on it. This isn’t a poly relationship. This is the husband and mistress essentially being the adults and she and her kid tagging along. I’m devastated for the child because this will be normalized to her.
Would you confront your friend and tell them even if their level of delusion is high and they can’t see the fire they are in?