It’s a long story ik, please bare with me!
My fwb and I have been seeing each other for about half a year now. We were friends from before, but he had feelings for me and I was in a toxic situationship with my ex. After I ended things with my ex, my fwb and I ended up going out and after talking, we both agreed to be fwb since I didn’t feel ready for one and he didn’t either. We agreed not to be sexual with others. I’m still a virgin, so I told him I’d like to take my time and do it with someone I have a stable bond with even if it isn’t a relationship and he was totally fine, told me to take my time.
We only established to be fwb in the very beginning, but as time went on we continued being jealous of each other. At one point, I’m pretty sure he fell into depression and avoided everyone for about 3 months. He contacted me again and we started seeing each other again. I didn’t see others and neither did he. At one point, he told me to not talk to him if i was talking to other guys and after he expressed jealousy, i did the same.
We are both sort of aware that we have small talking stages/people in our dms, but never actually going out or taking them seriously. He just jokingly brushes it off saying its no one and I do the same, and I don’t mind because I know for a fact I’m the only one he sees.
He barely even goes out anymore but makes time/calls me when he has time. We started seeing each other more often nowadays and planned on having intimacy soon. He’s aware it’s my first time and he made sure over and over again that we will only do it if I’m certain.
However, I saw people talking about men losing interest after sex, and despite my feelings not being extremely strong for him, I have to admit that I’d be hurt if it happened. We have strong chemistry both emotionally and physically and I’m capable of pleasuring him well.
As I said before, Im not ready for a relationship but I do have some sort of feelings for him and I think it might be mutual. im just trying to slowly take it to a more emotional level while not doing too much which is going very well (I think).
Is there a way I can avoid such thing from a man, and might be able to take it a bit further? I’d like to have sex with him but im worried of these things and tbh I’d like to make sure we are on the same page, like we don’t need to date but maybe try a bit more or at least re-establish what we are, and if it can be/already is more than fwb?