My best friend’s wife has apparently felt for years like I had no interest in being friends with her. This is not only untrue but the opposite of true. I have been trying that entire time to get closer. My best friend is like family to me and i consider her wife to be part of that.
I really struggle with conversations with people i’m not super familiar with. My brain goes blank and I have nothing to say. Basically the only exceptions to this are people i “click” with. Sometimes I will meet a person and I will be able to hold a conversation with them and this is how i’ve made basically every friend i’ve ever had.
I have not “clicked” with her. I try to hold a conversation with her but its just not long until I’m all out of words. I really, REALLY want to click with her. I don’t want her to feel like i’m intentionally excluding her. My friend is confused because her wife is the exact kind of person I would get along with famously. But it never happened and now there is this huge conflict because apparently I’ve been acting like a complete tool for four years. I don’t want to. Is there ANY way to facilitate this?