I say this as a 40F who, not too long ago, got love-bombed and had a horrible dating experience with that. I started crushing again on a new guy, and figured eh, he's probably not into me, he's not showing any signs of it. I talked to someone about this, and she asked me: why do you want to be in a relationship so badly? Good question. I even journaled about it.
So I came to this conclusion that I'd like to share: practically speaking, focusing on my well-being (namely physical, mental, and spiritual health) and my ambitions/goals outside of dating/relationships is the way to go. So for me that looks like having healthy routines, staying in touch with community, hanging out with friends, and of course, achieving my academic and career goals (I'm in graduate school). And I suggest this for people who are especially frustrated with the dating world right now.
Also it's ok to want to be in a relationship. You can be on the apps. But you can also prioritize yourself.
As someone on this sub once said to me, there's a lid for every pot. And I trust in that. But for now, I'm not going to think a ton about it, by getting on a bunch of apps, or attending a ton of hobby groups just to scout for a guy.
For now I plan to live my life, stay open to meeting someone, and not chase. Another perhaps cliche analogy that works for me, is that you don't get butterflies by chasing them. You get them by cultivating a beautiful garden. The garden being our amazing lives. Hope this helps somewhat.
Edit: I'm not saying don't actively date. Just don't try too hard, or make it your No. 1 priority.