So basically I’m a 19 y/o F in a relationship with a 21 y/o M. We’ve been together for 9 months. In the beginning we had lots of sexual relations, but for about 3–4 months now none.
I feel no horniness whatsoever and just simply do not want to have sex. It’s not because of my boyfriend at all. I love him with all my heart and I’m extremely attracted to him, I’m just personally not drawn to this kind of stuff.
We’re at a point now where he really needs to have sex and I don’t want to at all, and I do not want to force myself. He’s mentioned getting a pocket pussy but we’re not sure if it’ll actually work after the first few times of using it.
I also put out there the possibility of him having sex with someone else, but we’re both not sure how that would work or if it even would. This might sound really stupid, but I’m good with the fact that he has sex with someone else, I just don’t feel comfortable with the kissing, flirting, foreplay, emotional/intimate stuff, etc. For me, I would love if it was literally just straight penetration and nothing else, but we all know that’s unrealistic.
He has slept with a 24 y/o mom in the past and we’ve considered him doing it again with her, but once again I don’t feel comfortable with the kissing and all that.
I also put out the idea of a threesome for him and another couple because to me it honestly seemed like the best idea ever. He could get his action done without all the emotional/intimate stuff because the partner could take care of that. But my man doesn’t want to because he says if he were to do a threesome, he would want to do it with me involved too. His other worry is that he wouldn’t really get the time he wants with her because in a threesome the other guy would eventually be like “okay get off now” lol.
I’m honestly not sure what to do. Any opinions, experiences, ideas, advice, literally anything? I just want us to work out without me having to force myself while also still having his needs met.