When I was younger I thought the goal was to build the most exciting life possible. More money, more status, more experiences, more stimulation.

Now honestly the older I get, the more I value calm environments, stable relationships, quiet mornings, financial breathing room, and people that don’t drain my nervous system.

I didn’t expect peace to feel this valuable when I was younger.


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  2. I understood that life revolving around excitement based dopamine hits wasn’t sustainable in my early 20s, Im 36 now. Lasting happiness comes from being content with your life with a sensible amount of joy and excitement sprinkled in to keep it fresh now and then.

  3. 45 here. Every year for Christmas and birthday I’m asked by family what I want. My answer is always perpetual peace in my home.

  4. Some people want a life with high highs and therefore, they’ll also get low lows. I’m happy with a life that is predictable, quite balanced, even if it can be a little boring sometimes, made of small joys and minor disappointments.

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