I know you may not feel like you need to bother, since just populating your pictures and a few basics is often all you need to get you spammed by hundreds of terrible quality matches, but that’s the trick.

Those of us guys who are looking for something real? Who want to have a serious relationship with someone? Who will care about you, your interests, your dreams, and your goals for the future? We are way less likely to ever send a like if you don’t put any of those things on your profile.

I know building a dating profile takes a lot of time and effort to do right, but if you want to find something deeper, your profile needs to be deeper too. Otherwise the only thing we have to go on is physical attraction, and we all know that physical attraction alone has very limited depth.

Most dating apps seem to know this too and I suspect that’s why they limit how much you can write, to decrease your chances of actually meeting a good match and keep you on the platform longer, but even the apps with the strictest word counts usually let you write at least a paragraph about yourself. So do that! Tell us what you’re looking for! And if good matches are looking for the same thing, we’re going to reach out.

P.S. Also while there are more guys on dating apps than women and guys are more likely to send likes than receive them, this advice is of course true for guys too. I just happen to be a hetrosexual guy so I only see women's profiles, and maybe only 1 in 100 actually has a whole paragraph written. I’m sure there are just as many low effort profiles on the guys' side too, and it makes it just as hard for discerning women to consider us.


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