I picked mental health as a tag because maybe it’s the best fit but I feel like it hits all the tags.
I’m a 39m and by nearly all measures I have a great life. Well paying job and on track to financial goals, married to my college sweetheart, two healthy kids, a dog, house and cars. I’m living a very above average lifestyle in the suburbs of a medium sized city.
However, I feel very unfulfilled. I don’t have any hobbies or things I do for myself. I don’t really have any friends. I don’t have any time to myself because I’m either working, doing chores/errands, or shuttling the kids around to activities. I don’t have anything I’m looking forward to or want to do. I don’t have any community. I just want to get through the next obligation in front of me because that’s all I’ve really known in my adult life.
I guess I don’t really have a sense of purpose. Growing up I always saw myself being a pilot in the military but I ended up making compromises and talking myself into another job in the military. I got my privates pilots license when I was 18 but I cannot fly now because of medical reasons.
Is this burn out? Depression? Midlife crisis? Just the average experience for this age? Anyone else feel this way? Or used to? How’d you get through it?
Edit: keep the great replies coming! I’m trying to get to them all but, ya know, doing family stuff. Thanks so much for the replies.