I liked a guy and he did some things that made me wonder if he liked me, but it's been 9 months since we've met and nothing has ever progressed.
To me, it's obvious that I like him and I get scared thinking that he knows that I like him. But then again, I'm inside my own head too much, I can't actually know how my behaviour looks like on the outside. What if he's unsure that I like him?
For more context, we were classmates for one semester (we aren't classmates anymore now). Now we have zero contact other than meeting each other at events occassionally. He's an extroverted, talkative, cheerful, confident guy, but in a wholesome way, not in a rough way that some guys are.
Examples to help (i wish i could be more specific, but in case the guy has reddit, i have to be cautious)
– Very early after we met (only a few days), he sent me long thoughtful messages encouraging me and reassuring me when I was just expecting some short reply like "no problem"
– He sometimes noticed small things about me and helped me in ways that seem thoughtful and extra
– He once apologized for forgetting to reply/congratulate me about something I achieved, which caught me off guard because the message felt more personal than necessary, and i wasn't even mad about that and i didn't even think that was smth he had to apologize for
– Sometimes he also seemed unusually attentive and warm toward me compared to other people (like greeting me enthusiastically, replying to my stories more often for a while, and other small details)
But on the other hand, he really doesn't make effort to maintain connection outside of contextual or necessary circumstances. We only talk when we meet each other and only if I'm the only person he could talk to. If there are his other friends, he'd talk to his other friends. He'd text me if there's smth he actually need to say, like class-related things, but he wouldn't text me out of nowhere or just text for the sake of having a convo
Oh, and sometimes i accidentally create chances or opportunities for us to interact. And during those times i did feel resentful because i felt like i was keeping our connection alive.
So, idk if he's unsure that i like him (which could be why he doesn't push things forward?), or if he really doesn't like me romantically (because why didn't he try to maintain our connection) ?