Me and my bf (18 M and 19 M) have been dating for 5 and he is just so rough, like don’t get me wrong at first I really liked it but recently it just has been hurting me and it makes me really sore and tired, I can’t even sit half of the time. I tried to bring it up in the past but he kinda just ignored it and kept going rough, it has really been hurting me and making sex not as enjoyable, I just want gentle calmer sex recently especially bc I have been hella stressed out, not the fast, hard, rough, and degrading sex we have been having, he has been gentle in the past a couple times but that’s only when he is drunk. How do I tell him without making him upset or him not listening again