I have a friend called Alexia (F, 32) who has been single for the last 10 years. She's a really great friend, a really good person, is pretty and has made a good life for herself. She talks a lot and is prone to overthinking and being a bit neurotic which does get on peoples nerves, but she has really long-standing friendships.
As she's gotten older (and especially because a lot of her friends are in long-term relationships, married, have kids), she's become more internally desperate to find someone. Recently, she matched with Sean (M, 35) on an app. Sean lives in a different city (but same country) from Alexia and is recently divorced. They've been talking and facetiming a lot for the last 3 months, and he recently came to her city (for a wedding, but he came a few days early to meet her and hang out). Her birthday happened to be the day he arrived so he surprised her with a perfume ($200-$300 range) with her initials engraved in the top.They've spent a few days together and there is physical chemistry. They've continued talking and had a few deep conversations. When asked, he has told her that he likes her as more than a friend. However, he says that he needs time to think about whether he has can make time for a relationship with her and wants to take a couple of weeks to figure that out after the wedding when he goes on a working holiday to Indonesia where he will be helping a family member with their business. She is hesitant to bring up plans to see each other again because it can trigger some trauma he has from the divorce/past relationship and other personal issues.
My friend group is split on whether he seems interested or not. So reddit, what do you think?
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