I know it may be heavily mood dependent, but just on a general level. Especially for you that mostly experience responsive desire.
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“Wanna have sex?”
I’m always down to get railed but asking is always a good idea 😁
I don’t care how, JUST DO IT.
A complement, a kiss / touch
A little spontaneity would be nice.
When a kiss goodnight turns into something is always fun.
I love having kids more than anything else. They fill my life with joy.
Let’s be honest though, they are real cock blockers sometimes.
Am I the only one who thinks being woken up in the night in a fit of passion is hot???
Communicating that
Earnestly/sincerely. I don’t like sleazy ogling or wiggly eyebrows. Kiss me, then kiss me a little deeper, maybe let your hands wander a bit (waist, back, hips–don’t just honk my boobs), then gesture towards the bedroom.
My partner tends towards goofy sleaze, which is kind of a problem. 🙁
Open the door wearing lingerie, a cute dress with no panties, an overcoat, or loungewear.
Being upfront with it can be sexy too. Straight up saying “I want you to fuck me”.
Getting on their knees when im sitting down and teasing me, or even pull me into a room and tease me then.
Whisper something sexy into my ear during the day, especially when we’re not already in bed.
Send sexy texts saying what you want them to do to me, or how horny they are.
It depends on boundaries, what both parties feel comfortable with and consent and communication is key to any of this.
Im down whenever but my preferred method it’s hugging me from behind and whispering something dirty in my ear for sure
Interpretive dance
Kissing me, touching me… telling me I look pretty/beautiful/sexy
I love when we’re just cuddled watching a movie and they rub their hands over me in a teasing way, letting me know they’re ready
Roughly
Very very roughly.
I just want him to pull down his pants n im good to go
Woo me. I get the luxury of just shaking my bare arse at him and I acknowledge that privilege.
I want a coffee made for me when I dont have to ask. Then a cuddle, my hair pet like a sick victorian child and possibly one of the cats set on my knee pre purred. Maybe I want a wee bit of chocolate as well and we’ll watch something heavily based on Pedro Pascal. Narcos, The Mandalorian perhaps? Game of Thrones? Then some kisses on the head like a baby bird and brought up to bed because im a delicate flower and go from there.
Does this happen? Absolutely fucking not. Ive asked for it but all i get is a hairy arse shook at me. Sort of fair enough.
Grab me like you want me and can’t wait to have me. Push me up against a wall and kiss me.. be passionate. That makes me WEAK🫠
My wifey does all sorts of stuff. Sometimes she just begs me to rail her out of nowhere, other days she’ll keep biting my neck while we’re just cuddling cause she knows that turns me the hell on, or she’ll suddenly start grinding herself against me…
I like the neck bites approach the most myself, always the most intimate to me when we’re just having a cuddly moment and start slowly like that :>
I like when it he starts with just a hand glide cross anywhere on my body and then crowds my space or pulls me into him. Immediately turn to putty.
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Literally just kiss me good and I’m ready to go.
I’ve enjoyed these:
• both of our main love languages is touch, so we cuddle a lot. Sometimes when we’ve settled into bed he’ll move closer to me and we hold each other. Then he’ll start kissing me. Little kisses on the cheek, neck, and lips- and then it just takes off from there
• come up and hug me from behind and either bites my neck and ear. Instant turn on!
• He knows I like it when he teases me and he does it so well it drives me crazy in the best way. It’ll start off light- he’ll give me a hug and then run and massage my body and then touch/grab my butt and walks away like nothing happened. A little bit later he’ll up the intensity on touching me everywhere and kissing my neck. He’ll backs off again and looks over his shoulder with a smile on his face like he knows what he’s doing and what it’s doing to me. Hell maybe do that last part 1-2 more times before we go at it. It just builds up the sexual tension so well and it just makes things really fun and intense. This is a personal favorite I like being done on a rare occasion to keep things exciting
I like it to start with teasing and cuddles! Some flirting as well. I don’t like anything too sudden or instense out of nowhere.
Massages, sensual caressing, cuddling, and whispering dirty talk.
Tight embrace and passionate kissing.
Also, one thing that has been recently happening: massages. It always turns into a sensual massage and ends in a great night. Lol.
Any ways he wants it to! I like it being different each time. The only thing I don’t like is something rush, sudden or forced.
My love language is Acts of Service. If my husband cooks a meal or cleans a room, my clothes will hit the floor in about two seconds.
Kissing, caressing, taking my hand and dragging me to the bedroom… It’s very rare though and I’ve asked several times to switch it up…
I have multiple current partners/FWBs, and they’re not all the same for me. Some of them I want a little romance and mood setting, some a little sweeter and cuddly, others just a blunt “wanna blast industrial and 69?” and I’m good to go.
With their words
This is just me, but as a person with a more responsive drive, my favorite is if the person goes “Hey, do you wanna go to bed early tonight?” or something similarly euphemistic and in the future.
This rocks because, first, if I’m having a terrible night and I have a bunch of shit to do and I’m mad and I feel gross and I know there’s no chance of something happening, I can say “Aw, I’m sorry, not tonight,” and it feels a little less like a sex rejection, because who knows maybe I’m just not wanting to go to bed early.
And if I’m immediately up for it, I can know to jump their bones. But if I feel amenable to the idea but need time to get in the mood, I can do that. I can think about what I need to get in the mood (which might be getting some shit done that I wanted to do tonight, it might be needing some alone time to do something I’ve been looking forward to doing, it might be some cuddling) and I can ask for that. And I can do the things that I need to get myself in the right headspace to want sex in a couple hours. And then once I’m in that headspace, I can come back and I can hit on my partner and make them feel desired.
Often
Earlier than midnight.
Pretty much anything works, wiggle the tongue from the across the room, make animals noises at me, whip it out and helicopter, kiss me, hold me any and all advances are good 😊
My girlfriend will say do you wanna come upstairs and fuck me or she’ll just lay there naked in bed after telling me to come upstairs. I walked in and she’s laying there naked.
My favorite is when I’m bending over to pick something up and he just comes up and pulls my pants down and goes in face first. He must know I don’t need to pick things up as often as I do but he plays along nicely.
By NOT wagging his man parts at me after a shower.
Pick me up like a rag doll and throw me onto the bed/couch/whereever
37 comments
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“Wanna have sex?”
I’m always down to get railed but asking is always a good idea 😁
I don’t care how, JUST DO IT.
A complement, a kiss / touch
A little spontaneity would be nice.
When a kiss goodnight turns into something is always fun.
I love having kids more than anything else. They fill my life with joy.
Let’s be honest though, they are real cock blockers sometimes.
Am I the only one who thinks being woken up in the night in a fit of passion is hot???
Communicating that
Earnestly/sincerely. I don’t like sleazy ogling or wiggly eyebrows. Kiss me, then kiss me a little deeper, maybe let your hands wander a bit (waist, back, hips–don’t just honk my boobs), then gesture towards the bedroom.
My partner tends towards goofy sleaze, which is kind of a problem. 🙁
Open the door wearing lingerie, a cute dress with no panties, an overcoat, or loungewear.
Being upfront with it can be sexy too. Straight up saying “I want you to fuck me”.
Getting on their knees when im sitting down and teasing me, or even pull me into a room and tease me then.
Whisper something sexy into my ear during the day, especially when we’re not already in bed.
Send sexy texts saying what you want them to do to me, or how horny they are.
It depends on boundaries, what both parties feel comfortable with and consent and communication is key to any of this.
Im down whenever but my preferred method it’s hugging me from behind and whispering something dirty in my ear for sure
Interpretive dance
Kissing me, touching me… telling me I look pretty/beautiful/sexy
I love when we’re just cuddled watching a movie and they rub their hands over me in a teasing way, letting me know they’re ready
Roughly
Very very roughly.
I just want him to pull down his pants n im good to go
Woo me. I get the luxury of just shaking my bare arse at him and I acknowledge that privilege.
I want a coffee made for me when I dont have to ask. Then a cuddle, my hair pet like a sick victorian child and possibly one of the cats set on my knee pre purred. Maybe I want a wee bit of chocolate as well and we’ll watch something heavily based on Pedro Pascal. Narcos, The Mandalorian perhaps? Game of Thrones? Then some kisses on the head like a baby bird and brought up to bed because im a delicate flower and go from there.
Does this happen? Absolutely fucking not. Ive asked for it but all i get is a hairy arse shook at me. Sort of fair enough.
Grab me like you want me and can’t wait to have me. Push me up against a wall and kiss me.. be passionate. That makes me WEAK🫠
My wifey does all sorts of stuff. Sometimes she just begs me to rail her out of nowhere, other days she’ll keep biting my neck while we’re just cuddling cause she knows that turns me the hell on, or she’ll suddenly start grinding herself against me…
I like the neck bites approach the most myself, always the most intimate to me when we’re just having a cuddly moment and start slowly like that :>
I like when it he starts with just a hand glide cross anywhere on my body and then crowds my space or pulls me into him. Immediately turn to putty.
[removed]
Literally just kiss me good and I’m ready to go.
I’ve enjoyed these:
• both of our main love languages is touch, so we cuddle a lot. Sometimes when we’ve settled into bed he’ll move closer to me and we hold each other. Then he’ll start kissing me. Little kisses on the cheek, neck, and lips- and then it just takes off from there
• come up and hug me from behind and either bites my neck and ear. Instant turn on!
• He knows I like it when he teases me and he does it so well it drives me crazy in the best way. It’ll start off light- he’ll give me a hug and then run and massage my body and then touch/grab my butt and walks away like nothing happened. A little bit later he’ll up the intensity on touching me everywhere and kissing my neck. He’ll backs off again and looks over his shoulder with a smile on his face like he knows what he’s doing and what it’s doing to me. Hell maybe do that last part 1-2 more times before we go at it. It just builds up the sexual tension so well and it just makes things really fun and intense. This is a personal favorite I like being done on a rare occasion to keep things exciting
I like it to start with teasing and cuddles! Some flirting as well. I don’t like anything too sudden or instense out of nowhere.
Massages, sensual caressing, cuddling, and whispering dirty talk.
Tight embrace and passionate kissing.
Also, one thing that has been recently happening: massages. It always turns into a sensual massage and ends in a great night. Lol.
Any ways he wants it to! I like it being different each time. The only thing I don’t like is something rush, sudden or forced.
My love language is Acts of Service. If my husband cooks a meal or cleans a room, my clothes will hit the floor in about two seconds.
Kissing, caressing, taking my hand and dragging me to the bedroom… It’s very rare though and I’ve asked several times to switch it up…
I have multiple current partners/FWBs, and they’re not all the same for me. Some of them I want a little romance and mood setting, some a little sweeter and cuddly, others just a blunt “wanna blast industrial and 69?” and I’m good to go.
With their words
This is just me, but as a person with a more responsive drive, my favorite is if the person goes “Hey, do you wanna go to bed early tonight?” or something similarly euphemistic and in the future.
This rocks because, first, if I’m having a terrible night and I have a bunch of shit to do and I’m mad and I feel gross and I know there’s no chance of something happening, I can say “Aw, I’m sorry, not tonight,” and it feels a little less like a sex rejection, because who knows maybe I’m just not wanting to go to bed early.
And if I’m immediately up for it, I can know to jump their bones. But if I feel amenable to the idea but need time to get in the mood, I can do that. I can think about what I need to get in the mood (which might be getting some shit done that I wanted to do tonight, it might be needing some alone time to do something I’ve been looking forward to doing, it might be some cuddling) and I can ask for that. And I can do the things that I need to get myself in the right headspace to want sex in a couple hours. And then once I’m in that headspace, I can come back and I can hit on my partner and make them feel desired.
Often
Earlier than midnight.
Pretty much anything works, wiggle the tongue from the across the room, make animals noises at me, whip it out and helicopter, kiss me, hold me any and all advances are good 😊
My girlfriend will say do you wanna come upstairs and fuck me or she’ll just lay there naked in bed after telling me to come upstairs. I walked in and she’s laying there naked.
My favorite is when I’m bending over to pick something up and he just comes up and pulls my pants down and goes in face first. He must know I don’t need to pick things up as often as I do but he plays along nicely.
By NOT wagging his man parts at me after a shower.
Pick me up like a rag doll and throw me onto the bed/couch/whereever