I'd love to get a mans perspective on this:
A few weeks ago, I wanted to re-connect with a man I use to date. I wanted to find out where he was emotionally, spiritually, etc. We hadn't spoken in 2 years.
He asked to communicate with me on Facetime and we did. I told him how I felt about him, (That I love him and want to be with him long term. I was ready for marriage). He got frustrated with me and said "Where were you when we dated?" (He means I wasn't emotionally available) , He said he wanted a future with me…kids, marriage but he was never vocal about that with me.
Long story short, he has a girlfriend now (who is way in another country) They have been Together for 10 months but I was is first love so he said. We stayed on FaceTime for 3 hours. It was a very emotionally intense convo It was 1:40 am and he wanted to see me in person and was horny and he didn't know what he would do if he saw me. I didn't know what I would do. I asked to see him in person during the day and the next day he changed his mind because he had a gf.
But if he loves this other girl he should be able to see me in person and have no issues right? I get respect but there are a lot of men that are in a relationship and still able to be around me.
I miss this man deeply and I want to be with him. He wants to have another facetime conversation. But I don't want things to be messy. I want him the right way..no cheating on his girl. What should I do? What should he do? Has any man been through this?