I honestly can't see if i am too sensitive and that his behavior is just normal, or if I'm reasonable in feeling hurt. But when I get hurt and I back away a little he seems confused. I've explained why I got hurt a few times and he was very shocked and said that he didn't even think about it that way, it was not intentional apparently.
So we go to the same uni (30-35 years old), so I see him a few times a week. We connected well in the beginning, and I thought we were on our way to a friendship. I've invited him to things and he joined once, but he hasn't invited back. When I text, he seems "people pleasing" in his replies that arrive 1-2 days after.
I waited for him to join me for lunch one day after class, and we walked to the cafeteria together, got food together, and then he sat on the other side of the table so we couldn't talk? I was so confused..
And recently we were talking one day at school next to his project, and he asked me about my project. I told him, and he said that he really wanted to see it. I said yeah just come up whenever you want (only today because the project was gonna get taken down in the afternoon). He also had to grab something in my classroom apparently, so he had 2 things he needed to do that same day.
Well, he never showed up.
And my project is taken down and not visible anymore. I got sad that he never wrote to me why he didn't come? If he went home early or whatever.
These things hurt me and I don't know if they are small things and I'm overreacting, or that he is not in this friendship as much as I am, and he doesnt really care about me.