I have been with my partner for 2 years. He shows up a lot with actions and acts of service. We live together and he cooks , cleans , and our partnership feels so equal. He also gives me a lot of quality time, we are always taking trips or going on dates. We have built a life together with our dogs and merged families and friends. The only issue is (and it feels huge to me) is our conversations feel dull and lack depth. He has never asked me about my childhood or life before him. We have never talked about my fears, my dreams, or passions. I try hard to start conversations with him that are not surface level but everytime I try he seems quiet or not interested. I have mentioned to him multiple times I wish we could have deeper conversations about life , and who we are in general and he always responds with “I don’t know what to ask” or “that isn’t how I was raised to have conversations.” 2 years in and I feel like I have major life events he has no idea about , positive and negative. I have tried to open up to him about my life and his dull responses makes me shut down because I feel like I’m talking to myself or the conversation isn’t wanted . I have brought up my need for deeper conversations multiple times and I feel like nothing comes of it. For Christmas he bought a question book for couples and I felt like it was his attempt to try but the book stayed on the shelf and hasn’t been touched unless I bring it out . Sometimes I worry he just wants a girlfriend for the benefits and not for the deep emotional connection. I am unsure what to do and I feel so guilty because he checks off all the marks outside of this . I feel like breaking up with a man who has never treated me poorly, never even insulted me once, and does all these actions would be insane . Is this something
Anyone has experienced and worked through?
TL;DR looking for recommendations for a deeper connection