So, I live on my own. Me and him have been technically living together tho since he sleeps over all the time, but I pay the rent + everything else in the house. He doesn't do ANYTHING. I cook pretty good meals, keep the house clean, buy groceries, everything.
He never does and if I ask him to help with the dishes or a mop or anything he complains and simply says he doesn't want to. It completely pisses me off like actually boils my blood even if I dont say anything. And he doesn't let me smoke in my own kitchen after he quit smoking? Like i just dont find it fair that he makes up rules in my own house when he doesn't contribute at all.
And speaking of, were not even officially together. I mean we act like we are, but im not sure. If i asked him what are we, he wouldnt be able to give me a straight answer. Im pretty sure he talks to other girls too, but this isnt what this post is about. Its been going on for months and rn I have to go back to a house full of dishes and stuff that I have to clean all on my own.
How should I talk to him about it without ruining our relationship? I do love and care for him which is why I do what I do (cooking because he doesn't eat enough, cleaning so he has a nice space, letting him stay over because I know he doesn't like it at home that much). I just want him to put more effort without driving him away.
Im very easy to convince and I can never put my foot down, people can easily make me feel like im overreacting or like I'm in the wrong and then I give up and just let everyone step all over me. I dont want that to happen. I moved out because of a very rough situation at home and even if what he's doing is nothing compared to how bad it used to be I do sometimes feel like I'm headed in a direction I dont want to be in. I dont want to repeat my mother's mistakes, even the small ones.
tl;dr: Bf who lives with me while I pay rent doesn't do anything around the house and I dont know how to talk to him about it.