I met this woman a couple months ago. She basically urged me to set up a date with her. She told me what she wanted to do, set up avail times, told me where she liked to hang out, and she was fairly assertive about it. So I gave her a date and time and we exchanged info. Leading up to the date, I followed up with her to which she didn’t respond. A few days later, we ran into each other at a bar and initially she didn’t remember me and I had to remind her. At the end of that night I told her to let me know if she wanted to still go out on that date. Tbh Idt she even remembered that we had planned to meet up. As a side note I recently ran into her and she introduced herself to me…*again*. No clue who I was
So fast forward a couple months and my close friend meets her. And they’ve been hitting it off so far. And like I’m happy for him but also, it kinda kills me that she’s so into him. She’s overtly flirty with him. Honestly ig I’m just jealous and idk how to deal with that. I can handle jealously in partnerships pretty well but for some reason, I can’t deal with this situation. I don’t hold it against him. I listen and give him genuine input. I support and encourage him with this.
It’s been a couple weeks now and she has so far not committed to even a date with him but insists that she’s *wildly* interested in him. And part of me feels like there’s something disingenuous there. In my mind, if someone is interested in you they’ll set up something. And as I’m seeing her more often, it seems like she’s wrapped up in other guys, situationships etc.
I wanna protect him. And at the same time, I want to get the attention she gives him, especially since she seemed to express interest in me first.
Thinking about this is dumb and redundant. No woman is obligated to date me for any reason. I should be happy for my friend who I think deserves someone special. He works hard and has a good heart. I want to cheer him on and I do. But it still bothers me that essentially I am yet again not chosen
I just really needed to get this out there. I find no point in expressing this to my friends but I wanted to let it out.