Hi, so for a little context I met my fiance two years ago now, for the first year of our relationship he was consistently hiding messages from his ex from me and other girls included and I had to go through his phone to find these messages, they were on twitter and Snapchat we’ve had multiple arguments about this I cannot even begin to explain how many.
Anyway I fell pregnant in August 2025 and before I found out I went though his phone and found that he’d been searching girls on TikTok that looked nothing like me to get off and I even had proof of it, when i confronted him about it he lied to my face and said he wasn’t doing it I didn’t believe him obviously because I’d saw it but i decided to let it go, so when I found out I was pregnant it was awful I had severe hyperemesis (sickness) and I was hospitalized multiple times and couldn’t eat, sleep or even leave the house I’d scream in agony and he was there for me all the time.
During all of this I confronted him again and said if he didn’t stop lying to me I’d leave him, to which he admitted that he had been searching these girls and getting off to them (which is a boundary he’s broken as I told him I was uncomfortable with this and him watching certain videos) I went crazy essentially and cried my heart out infront of him.
We’ve had no more issues since I was pregnant other than him using the toilet for 40 mins each time (this is where he used to cheat on me🥲) and I didn’t check his phone during my entire pregnancy as I didn’t want to know because I didn’t want my daughter to feel anything sad or angry.
I’m now three weeks postpartum and I’ve had this feeling he’s doing it again as he’s acting suspicious with his phone and I just woke up from a nap to the house completely silent and him in the bedroom, I could hear slight noises on the bed so I walked into the room and he’s on the floor phone down on the floor and his face was red as if he’d just been caught doing something wrong, I then confronted him about this and he got slightly mad saying he hasn’t done anything but I just don’t trust him anymore, I don’t know what else to do and I feel like I’m losing my mind.
Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated as I do love him but I cannot do this anymore if that’s what he’s doing.
Update:
I have told him to leave and I’m getting him an uber to his moms as of now, thank you to everyone who gave me the tough love I needed, I’ve been too kind to him and I thank you all so much for giving me the confidence I needed, I thought this was all in my head