I'm a virgin, but I started hooking up with men recently, however, I mainly make out and do handjob/titjob, without penetration and oral (given or give).
I have great anxiety about STIs, ESPECIALLY HPV, bc it leads to cervix/throat cancer. I've been vaccined, but many ppl still get effected by hpv virus after vaccine. So I'm afraid of penetration and oral, bc condoms cannot prevent the spread of hpv virus.
I discussed with the guy I'm hooking up now, he understands and will take the tests at home with test kits, but hpv test is usually not accurate with men–they always show negative whether they have or not. 1/3 of men carry it including minors and elderly, and I suppose he has it too bc he's sexually positive.
But also, many ppl say "you could die from car crash" and "HPV infection is like getting a cold, you'll recover." And I know it's hard to never get a hpv infection in your whole life, but I'm still scared.
I'm starting to think about giving and being given oral, especially most of the experienced (and hot) guys don't wanna just have handjobs for hook-ups, and I don't wanna miss the fun with them. But isn't that kinda like trying to please them? But personally, I'm also rly curious and horny about sucking a cock and getting my pussy licked.
Should I start at least doing oral? Or I should keep waiting until I'm less afraid?