Ive been dating a guy for two months now. We have met up at least once every week but the last couple of weeks it was twice or more. When we meet up it’s mostly him asking me to see me.
In those months he has sad that mentally he’s not in the right place. He doesn’t know what he wants in life, he feels like his life is falling apart. Last week he mentioned wanting to go on vacation for a month or two. He did ask my thoughts on it and I told him I would never say he can’t do it, but that I would find it difficult.
He starts messaging first a lot of the times. When he doesn’t it’s because he’s spiralling. I know I can’t be the one to help him and he has to do it but it’s really starting to hurt me. I asked him last night if he wants to go on a double date with a friend of mine and he again said he doesn’t know what he want and he might go away for a while.
I told him then that I am starting to have feelings for him and he said he respects me and likes being with me but feelings for him have to grow. He doesn’t know if he will ever feel love again because he got hurt too much.
I don’t know what to do with this situation. The thing is when he spirals he also doesn’t take care of himself for two days, it’s always his off work days because he’s home and doesn’t know what to do. He functions fine on workdays.
I feel so good when I’m with him. He’s kind and notices things like me being cold and giving me a blanket. He has a passion for job and that’s what’s hurting him because it’s not going well there at the moment.