I (31F) have been with my husband (34M) for fifteen years, married for twelve, and we have had our problems, like every couple, more so recently. Still, for the most part, I think we are pretty happy, or I'm delusional which is why I'm posting so I wanted to know if this is normal. I work remotely and I do fairly well for myself but when I am off the clock and off the phones my brain takes like a solid hour sometimes longer to switch off. I end up just talking about my day, asking about his, and wanting to have an actual conversation with my husband.
I end up annoying him or he will keep telling me to be quiet I don't want to talk long and regardless if i talk to him or the kids he will tell me I'm being too loud or in some way I end up needing to be quiet. I do try to be aware of our surroundings so I don't bother him when he is actively doing something or his attention is focused on something but I'm starting to feel like he dislikes my voice, my talking, or just me. So does your spouse annoy you when they want to talk about their day? Is this normal or am I too sensitive it's highly possible I cried recently because my plant is dying but I don't want to get my feelings hurt if this is normal.