I25F was spending time with my bf’s 33M family in the afternoon. We’ve been going out for about 15 months. I was starting to have a migraine and went to go home, it’s a 40 minute commute from his house to mine and I was half way in between. I was driving on the freeway, everything was getting dark and lights were overpowering and felt like my head was spinning. I completely forgot to eat lunch, it was such a busy day and didn’t get a chance to get anything before going to my bf’s family event. So I drove to a nearby drive thru for food. I took a couple bites and wasn’t hungry at all. It was dark out and I felt like I just needed to close my eyes. I didn’t know what was going on and got scared and overwhelmed. My bf wasn’t getting replies back so he called and heard me cry and said he was coming. He said he would drive my car to my house and uber his way back. I called my mom because I was letting her know what was going on and she also said she was on her way with my sister to drive my car home as well. I wasn’t thinking clearly and I just told my bf it’s okay my mom is coming and he said he turned around when I said that. I have his location and he has mine but I had no idea he was on his way. I told him, I don’t want to bother him with the car trouble. I truly wasn’t thinking about the commute my mom had to make from home to me. For some reason, I thought it would be faster for my mom to get to me than it was for my bf. I truly wasn’t thinking. He got cold with me on the phone and all I remember is him saying something about “they are going to take longer, you’re house is farther and I was almost there only 12 mins away, we could’ve been on our way to your house by now, I don’t know why you’re doing this, you know very well I am closer and I don’t know why you’re not letting me take care of you, it’s because you don’t trust me.” I was just listening to him saying this as I was shivering uncontrollably in my car with my eyes closed. I told him to come wait with me and he asked for my mom’s eta and I sent him a screenshot and he said they’re close now.
I think I was about to faint and was having a fever and a migraine at the same time? Looking back I think I should’ve called an ambulance…. My mom and sister arrived and I hung up. I got home took medicine and fell asleep for 13 hours.
My bf has been cold ever since then and just been saying “feel well, get rest.” I asked him why he’s cold with me. He says “I don’t believe you wanted me to come and take care of you or don’t trust me enough to let me take care of you that’s why I’m being cold, you wanted to wait 30 mins, I was 10 mins away from you when you told me it’s okay your mom is coming.”
I asked him why did he turn around if he was 10 mins away already and he said “You said your mom and sister were already on the way so I thought they would’ve been close.”
I told him everything was foggy and I called my mom and didn’t think about the timing of everything or thinking straight and I told him everything I remember him telling me on the phone and he was saying I was telling you facts and you wouldn’t listen and you didn’t want me or trust me in taking care of you, you got home and feeling better so that’s all that matter I’ll be the bad guy.”
I’m just upset on the way he made me feel and how he turned cold on me when I wasn’t thinking clearly and nothing was making sense at the time. I haven’t been in a relationship in 5 years so I’m not sure what I should’ve done in this situation? Was I not supposed to call my mom and not tell her what was going on? If he was so close like he said wouldn’t he want to just come see me?
If roles were reversed I would’ve just drove right to him, and wait with him because I want to make sure he’s okay even if his family is on their way, I would’ve tried to make it to him.
Edit: I learned that what I had was a migraine, I’ve never experienced it before.