Hi. Me and my wife are both in our twenties. I would like to keep some details private, just for privacy’s sake. We have only been married for a little over a year. We used to have sex like rabbits when we were dating, we couldn’t get enough of it. Now we have a kid who is about 5 months old at this point. I just want to get this part out of the way because I understand that postpartum depression is a thing and hormones can get messed up and affect intimacy.
I am doing everything I possibly can as a husband and as a father. I work full time. I take care of the house. I tell her that she is so beautiful to the point that I probably annoy her. I stress to her every day how much I love her. Yet I am always initiating, and I am always begging. Even small things like kissing, I have to ask for. I get a quick peck on the lips and it’s over in a second. I honestly can’t remember the last time she initiated something. Sometimes she will cuddle with me in bed as we fall asleep, but that’s it. If I ask for sex for the second night in a row, she gets all quiet and says “I guess”. I’m so tired of feeling like I’m the only one that wants physically intimacy. I meet all of her needs, but apparently it’s the end of the world for her to meet mine. I’m tired of feeling like I’m not wanted.
So with all of that being said, I don’t know if it’s a hormone thing or what, but it has seriously felt like she just doesn’t enjoy sex. I can abstain for days, and she won’t bat an eye or ask for anything. I hate it. I don’t know what to do. I have communicated my exact needs and desires, and nothing changes. She just says stuff like “I’m not a touchy person” which is bull, because we used to have sex all the time.
Please give me advice. I want to have sex with my wife on a regular basis, and I want her to want it, and to enjoy it.