I will try to make this as short as possible.
We were together for 10 years and have a 7-year-old son and purchased a house together. I am the third woman he has a child with, and he never wanted to marry any of us.
Throughout the years, I became very resentful. He is a “Disney dad” and never disciplined his children and gave in to their every whim. In addition, he did some pretty messed up things. The relationship started off Rocky when I found out that he was taking smoke breaks in his car during lunch with a very attractive female coworker. When I found out about it and became upset, he began deleting the text messages so that I wouldn’t find out. This is where I should have cut off the relationship, but I was young and enamored and clearly wasn’t seeing .
When my son was born, he put me on the back burner when I went into emergency labor so that he could go pick up his daughter three hours away. He arrived exactly 1 hour before I was wheeled in for an emergency C-section. My son wasn’t breathing when he was born and his father nearly missed it. As I was recovering from preeclampsia the next day and was hooked to a magnesium drip, baby mama number one also showed up at the hospital unannounced and walked with him to the NICU to visit my son. I was never comfortable with this and no one asked me if this was OK. He also did not establish any boundaries and ask her to leave. I felt incredibly disrespected and like my feelings or not a priority.
About two years ago, I started to feel very lonely and unloved in the relationship. I began seeking attention elsewhere, and while I did not physically cheat, I did begin to exchange sexual text messages with other men for attention. He found out about it and left the house a year ago.
He still cares for his son and sees him every day, but he just filed for paternity last week and is taking me to court for 50-50 custody of our son as well as to try and force the sale of our house which is going to leave me in financial ruin and without a place for my son and I to stay.
We have been arguing constantly, and he pushes me over the edge and then records me so that he can have video evidence of me completely wigging out for the courts.
I am angry and heartbroken all at once. I don’t even know where to begin handling this situation.
I feel so stupid for falling into his trap. Now I am a 36-year-old single mom with baggage and I will always be seen as used goods and like I don’t have any value.
Tl;dr: my partner of 10 years left me to be a single mom. He is trying to financially screw me and take my son 50% of the time. I am extremely depressed and don’t know who to talk to.