I (19F) have a crush on a guy (19M) I’ve known for a little while through church. We did worship band together in high school, but have both since graduated.
He is a very very sweet guy, kind of shy, really smart and emotionally intelligent. He’s pretty family-oriented and we have the same ideals, along with a lot of the same interests (we both enjoy the same media, video games, books, etc.) I told other people at my church that I liked him and they all seemed on board with it, a lot said we would make a good match.
I kinda hinted to him that I liked him a bit ago, before he left for college. I didn’t want to be weird or creepy or anything so I didn’t say anything outright, I just told him I thought he was a really sweet guy and I enjoyed playing in the worship band with him. It was late at night and emotions were already high because of an activity that the church had done earlier so I don’t think he took it too seriously thankfully haha
Afterwards, I couldn’t tell if he liked me back at all, so I asked a friend who might know who he might like. She did, and said he kind of liked a different girl that had been coming to our church off and on for a bit. I cried a little bc of that tbh (I’m a crybaby in general lol) but it was a while ago, and I’m not sure if he still likes her or not. I’m also not sure if she likes him; she’s a very friendly person in general and idk if she has a boyfriend already or not. We follow each other on insta but she doesn’t post often at all.
Anyway, he left for college this past school year and I didn’t see him around much. I thought maybe I had gotten over him a little since then, but the school year is ending for a lot of people and now he’s back. Turns out I am definitely not over him lol, I still like him a lot but he makes me pretty nervous and gives me butterflies…
I guess I just need advice on what to do, I don’t want to come off too strong (as I tend to do sometimes) and scare him or anything. I’ve just had a crush on him for forever now and it’s going to tear me apart if I don’t do anything. I think I would prefer to just be friends first and see what happens. We don’t really have many of the same friends so I feel a little awkward just going up and talking to him… but then again what else is there to do? Again I don’t want to come off too strong, especially because he still might like that other girl or someone else atp and I don’t want to encroach on anything.
Advice for this? Do I just put myself out there? He’s on the shyer side so I don’t think he would talk to me first. I think I just need to know how to talk to him without coming off weird lol