Throwaway because I have my face on my og account also this will be mildly NSFW
obligatory "I'm on mobile so pardon the formatting" also English is my first language, but I'm bogan, so please lower your expectations greatly.
okay so I (28F) am in a predicament. My boyfriend (26M) was at mine, and he found multiple open/used condoms in my bin. of course, he cracks the shits at me, screeching about "how could I do this to him" and "i thought you were different" and all that, bit yall… I didn't cheat.
I'm into butt play, and I use condoms on my toys so that cleaning is easier. I'll usually do this about twice or thrice a week but we haven't been intimate lately so I've been doing this damn near every day. Curse my high drive. He knows I dabble in the darkside! We've spoken about how I've done it with exes (both giving and receiving yadda yadda). one of my exes bought me enough butt specific toys to pleasure a small comune, and hes seen my arsenal (no pun intended), but my boyfriend is against doing anything booty related so we don't. I dont try and convince him or anything, instead, I just utilise my resources in my own time for my own pleasure.
I have strong feelings about infidelity, as in, I'll break up with someone expeditiously if I fall out of love with them. Everyone knows this, I have told him this. But no, he still thinks I've done him dirty and invited someone into my home to smash my back doors in.
I've tried explaining to him that I didn't cheat, and I just was taking care of business since our sex life has been dry, but he won't hear it. I literally showed him there's no "specimen" in the condoms and he looked me dead in my eyes and said i was cheating with my ex-girlfriend (I am pan btw). Apparently, he's telling our mutuals I've stepped out, but they didn't believe him cause they know how quick i am to leave someone i dont want, but now he's allegedly trying to run a smear campaign on FB. I don't even have an FB account wtf.
How tf do I navigate this? Legitimately, I feel like this is break up worthy, but I feel like I have to defend my name. Where even do I start?
TLDR: My bf found condoms in my trash and thinks I cheated, but I use condoms on my sex toys and he won't believe that I'm innocent. now hes telling everyone I stepped out. help.
edit to add: its late here in Australia, my ass is going to bed, I'll reply in the morning
mini update: I'm awake, and I've broken up with him over text and blocked his number and on discord. ill update if anything note worthy happens