My 28f husband 29m have been married for 2 years. We have been together for 5 years.
To start off with he is very caring 90% of the time. But he gets very passive aggressive sometimes. I am on the more extroverted side while he is on the introverted side. I have alot of close friends while he has fewer. I love talking and I am an expressive person. I tend to animatedly talk not on purpose but I think I have a bubbly personality. I think this embarrases him. He has a neutral face most of the time in public and a no PDA guy. He says he doesn't like being expressive in public and only shows affection when it is just the two of us.
I dont remember him being this non expressive towards the beginning of us dating as I remember us chatting our heads off in cute cafes and restaurants. His family is also very reserved to the point I get uncomfortable to be with them at a dinner or party because they don't converse.
Anyways, I am writing this because of the incident that happened yesterday. This has also happened a few times now with him. We would be at a cafe or restaurant in the middle of a conversation and he would interrupt me to ask me to be less expressive. He tells me if someone saw they would think I was arguing or angry with him while I am just pationately chatting away at a random topic, I tend to talk faster sometimes when I am invested in the conversation too. This makes me feel extremely embarrassed and lost. I would end up withdrawing from the conversation all together. Yesterday a similar situation happened. We were talking about a random topic when he cuts me off and asks me "why are you angry?" I was shocked because he knew i wasnt angry and that i was just giving my opinion on the topic. I asked him why he asked me this. He tells me that my tone feels rude and people seem to be staring at us. I was basically whisper talking because he gets embarrassed if I talk audible to others. This never happens to me with anyone other than him. I felt really hurt because he knew well that I wasnt angry or being rude and that I was just talking. This time I confronted him. I told him literally no one has said this to me, not my family or friends. No one has been embarrassed of having a conversation with me in public except him. I got mad too while saying this but I didnt raise voice. He kept explaining himself saying that my tone would give anyone else the impression that I was arguing with him. I asked him why he cares about everyone else in the place while he is with me and it was not like we were with a group it was just the two of us there with a bunch other strangers in the cafe. I became really sad after that and had to take a walk because I couldn't stop crying. Am I wrong in this situation?