Recently I heard his second personal phone going off and picked it up to silence it. A photo memory notification popped up from a recent trip we took, so I opened the photo library to look at the pictures.
What I found completely shocked me.
His iPhoto library is synced with his main phone, and there were tons of screen recordings and screenshots saved of nearly nude women, girls flashing their boobs, highly sexualized reels/videos, and screenshots of Facebook profiles/content creators. One even advertised herself as a “mattress actress.”
There were SO many that it honestly felt like a collection.
Then I checked his Facebook watch history and saw that nearly every day he’s watching these women’s reels and videos.
Now I’m spiraling a bit wondering:
Is this just porn/fantasy behavior?
Is he saving these women to look up later on OnlyFans?
Is this normal and I’m being naive?
Or is this crossing a line in a marriage?
What hurts is that he already has a much higher sex drive than I do, and I genuinely try hard to meet him halfway. We have sex often, (nearly every day) and even when I’m not really in the mood I still try to take care of him because I know intimacy matters to him.
But after seeing all of this, I suddenly feel like I’m not enough no matter what I do.
Women: would this bother you if you found it?
Men: is this actually common behavior, or does this seem excessive?