My bf M/24 and I F/23 been together for 8yrs and recently his hygiene has gone really bad. He takes shower once a week. He doesn't even bath thoroughly, most of the time it's a quick 10mins shower. He doesn't clean his room at all. He keeps saying on days off but most of the time, I end up giving up and clean his room. He recently started going to gym right after his 10hrs shift in warehouse and all he does after gym is wash his armpit, legs, and hair. It gotten so bad to the point where he found out last week someone had reported saying he been stinking whole week! I had a
conversation about what he could do to avoid that in future but he has made no progress to. Now I'm just angry and a lil embarrassed. We are intimate every time we meet(we don't live together). He loves head and honestly I do not want to do that anymore coz of his hygiene. I do have to say I'm a lil germ freak so I'm pushing for better hygiene almost all the time, I have bought him new sheets, bed covers, shampoo, body wash, African sponge,and even offer to shower together so he feel a lil encouraged. and yet he makes no effort to do anything to help his hygiene. And no he doesn't have any condition that could affect his body, he is just always "tired" or "don't have time". I'm honestly tired of hearing those words all the time. It has come to the point where all I can think of is being straight forward and tell him he smells like cheese and I do not want to be intimate with him anymore. I really need help communicating with him in a way where I do not degrade him or make him feel like I'm embarrassed to be with him. Also this is my first time writing Reddit post and English is my second language as well so please be nice!! I appreciate all the helps!!