EDITED: adding some context, addressing some replies.
1) No, I have no discussed this with him (yet), I’m scared to bring it up and do it in a productive/open way that doesn’t cause more issues.
2) This is not a deal breaker for me; the hurt comes from the sneaking around. We all have our kinks.
3) I have zero interest in baiting or snooping, hence why I haven’t since gone through his phone, snooped more, etc. That behavior seems to hurt more than solve problems.
4) these pictures and videos are on Reddit, based on the screenshots. No idea if there is anything else, elsewhere or it goes further./
Married for 16 years, no kids. Had what I thought was a Healthy sex life and open communication.
I recently discovered that my husband has an entirely hidden nsfw dick pic account that he has been quite active with. Pictures, videos (of himself) and commenting/replying/engaging with commenters. I don’t honestly know if it’s gone any farther.
He’s gone to lengths to hide this from me as I’ve realized he’s active when I’m not home. I’m scared about what else I haven’t found, but can’t bring myself to look because I only even discovered this on accident (I asked him if I could check his phone for a pic I sent that I had deleted on my end and he gave me permission and told me to make sure and check his deleted folder as he’d probably deleted it as well. This is where I found the screenshots). I just don’t think this was a ploy for me to find out what he’s doing.
Im fucking shook. I feel betrayed and creeped out knowing that he’s doing this. And if this just the tip (so to speak), is there more he’s hiding?