Me and my boyfriend is on the verge of separating. We are together for 1 year. We're both still in college and have our homes to get back to. We're both very busy in our classes so we dont have much time to each other anymore. He said he lost feelings/passion to go on since things has gotten so busy and that he keeps being sad of my bad behavior. We broke up for like 2 days but contacted him and said that I dont think we thought about this deliberately enough. He just kept on insisting we should but I dont think we ever really tried to fix this. I feel like Im the only one that cares about this relationship now as I dont really want to lose him. He has lots of friends but I dont. He's like my main emotional support
He said he keeps tolerating my behavior since the start of our dating. I have this problem where replying feels like a chore to me. I mean I still love him but I just want some time to myself. I'm an introvert and since I was a child, I dont really have lots of friends and not a lot to talk to so developed this habit to adulthood. He thinks that's a problem since our first few months of dating but he's right. Though, I just cant change that all in a few months with I have grown accustomed to. He also thinks that I'm hardheaded, short-tempered and "I think that I'm correct all the time". Here's the thing, I know all that. Im trying to change honestly, it's not quite easy to change immediately with what you grown with since childhood. I know it's not good behavior but I can't control it at times. Those are the issues he has about me and we have arguments sometimes because of these behaviors
He also has some issues that I opened up to him. He hasnt fixed those yet too even after a year of our relationship. I dont know if he realizes that. I told that to him and I said that I never lost feelings for him due to these behaviors and he said that we should continue our relationship. Im not sure if that's a good sign
I told him that we should just "cool off" and contact/update each other about once a week/once every two weeks, and maybe there's some dates too here and there. Im desperately planning some dates to rekindle that spark back. Im so mentally exhausted as to what this relationship really needs. I think he wants to work with me, despite being so insistent of breaking up since last week. I just hope this works
I really dont want to find other people. I just want him so bad. I miss him so bad, we dont get to hang out that much anymore. Im scared that this wont work and I have to start over and I dont really want to do that. I'll miss our bonds, our routines and such. Im just scared to move on, it feels horrible
TLDR: We're on the verge of separating since he said that he lost the spark for me. He said that he still loves me, just the passion to go on is gone. He said that he kept tolerating my behavior and that contributed to losing the spark. I still think this relationship is very much solvable so I suggested a "cool off" to reassess our thoughts. I just dont want to lose him