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I (34F) matched with a guy (39M) on a dating app, and we hit it off almost immediately. We messaged so much that we exchanged social media handles when the app started glitching.
After looking at his social media, I realized that all of the photos he uses on his dating profile are from 2018–2019, and he looks significantly different now. In more recent tagged photos from the last two years, he appears to have gained at least 60 pounds.
I’ve lost over 200 pounds myself, so his weight gain isn’t what bothers me. What concerns me is that he’s presenting himself using photos that are clearly outdated. We’ve had one of the best connections I’ve had in a long time, so I’m disappointed.
I’m torn between bringing it up or just silently moving on. My concern is less about his appearance and more about what it says about his honesty and willingness to misrepresent himself.
The stress of multidating continues. Priority is third date for this Friday or Saturday. Have a first date Wednesday, another match who is free Thursday or Friday, another match who asked me out but is unplanned, and another two convos that need to be escalated to in person soon. All good matches so I want to meet them. Combined with everything else in life it’s feeling like a bit much. Ultimately really hoping last night’s awesome second date continues to develop and I can hop off the apps for a bit.
I have been on five dates with a guy over the last two months. We live in different cities but I am moving to his in a few weeks. We talk daily and the conversations are pretty deep, but there’s been no conversation about the relationship itself. Am I ok to bring up the fact that I’m about to move permanently and what he’s looking for at this point, or is it too soon?
It’s been 10 days since I told him to figure out what he wants from me and let me know when he does before cutting contact.
Every day I see something that reminds me I’m better off and this is major growth for me as I’ve always wanted to be chosen and never chose myself.
This was my first time walking away from someone I like because it just wasn’t it.
Third date with concert dude this week! Or maybe 2.5th date since we couldn’t talk during the second date? Anyway will report back.
Forgot to mention that the second date was fine but at one point he left to go to the bathroom and was gone for what felt like so long and I was like holy shit what if he just left lmao
Basically have given up on dating. Ive always been a heavy set guy and have gone up and down in weight. When I did get matches and dates many women didn’t believe I actually lived an active life. They assumed my photos of me being active were one off events for my profile lol. Now as I gained some weight back I get absolutely zero matches. Maybe 5 in a year.
Giving up on dating I think, at this point I just wish I could afford a house on my own….
Ive been getting told that im hard to read and im trying to fix this. My mom didn’t like how I reacted and showed my emotions growing up and it can be hard for me to show how I really feel.