i’ve never been able to cum with another person. like, ever. my body count is pushing 40, and i’ve NEVER cum with anybody.
there are times when i’ll get RIGHT on the brink, but nothing comes, and i don’t know if i’m like putting too much pressure on myself, or what, but i physically just can’t.
i’ve found that i’m not very sensitive down there, and i’m only able to cum when i’m masturbating alone.
for reference, i’m trans ftm, was on testosterone from april of 2025 to october of 2025 (had to go off due to health issues). i’m also on 75mg venlafaxine.
i’m so so SO tired of not being able to cum with other people. before sex, i preface that it’s never happened before, and they’re always so confident that they’ll be the one to do it, and then i just feel bad about not being able to once we’re done because it feels like i’ve just totally wasted their time and efforts.
that, plus i just wanna be able to be satisfied after sex :/
is there anything i can do to help with this?? i’ve tried different lubes, sensitivity enhancers, toys with other people, to no avail.
going off my meds is out of the question, as they’ve been the only ones so far to help with my depression.