Men, how do you deal with another guy approaching your girlfriend?
May 7, 2026
To clarify, yes, it's in your presence.
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Doesn’t bother me…She can handle herself, I trust her.
Imo, you don’t, she does.
Tell him thats your girlfriend. If he continues tell him to fuck off.
We usually con him to get us free drinks and sometimes food then do the Nelson laugh and point.
Unless she tells me, or shows me she needs help, I let her handle it. And I take the ego boost I guess?
So you mean he’s flirting with her right? Ok, first I’ll see how she handles it. If she let’s him know she’s spoken for and he politely leaves, then there’s no issue but if he persists, then I’ll step in and make my relationship with her very clear!
She does, unless he doesn’t take no for an answer.
Why would I have to deal with that?
You stand back and watch. If she doesn’t deal with it properly then you’re wasting your time with her.
My current wife is very soft spoken. Many years ago we were at a bar and she had gone to the bar itself to get a drink with one of our friends. A guy came up, offered to buy them drinks. They declined. He kept being pushy and the grind texted me. I was in a second room of the bar that was less bar and more dance floor. So I walk out and go up to her. He is laying it on thick. I asked if she was ok. She told me yes, but he was making her uncomfortable. He had already put a drink down for her.
So I drank it. I thanked him for the drink. And waited with her until she got the one she ordered.
She thanked me for it. She is generally too softspoken to stand up for herself.
I usually misintprete the situation and assume it’s someone she knows and introduce myself, then I find out later that he was just some random guy.
I observe in amusement.
Tell him to fuck off. My wife likes it when I’m a little “territorial” though.
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I pray for them. Guys approach my wife pretty frequently and they are in for a shock when they find out shes a straight psycho. But I love her!
IMO, I let her handle it as a grown woman. This actually happened and we spoke about it. Turns out she rather have me jump in and save her from the approach.
As a loving partner, I trust her, but these things actually requires a convo. What you think might not be what she wants.
My girlfriend deals with them.
My wife and I are at this sketch bar in the sticks. Pretty big place, and everyone looked shady af. Go to the bathroom, and when I come out, I see a dude trying to hand his number to my wife – and she was like “no”. As I walked toward him he kept pushing it, so I go up, take the piece of paper and whack him one. Turns out he was the owner. A massive brawl breaks out, and I get my wife to the car and we speed away, with like 10 mfrs chasing us on foot.
Good times.
I mean, its rude, but I can’t really complain. My girlfriend is cool with my wife, and I am not a hypocrite.
“You have excellent taste, sir. But I’m afraid I’m gonna have to ask you to back off”
I suck his dick to assert dominance
Serious question because this situation is very plausible: Your girlfriend respectfully but directly rejects the guy, saying “no thank you I’m with someone”. But he doesn’t respect her wishes and keeps on making advances, so she gets more defensive and rejects him more firmly, but that still doesn’t work, so she turns to you to intervene. But let’s say you’re not the biggest guy and have no intimidation factor (like you’re 5’5” and 140 lbs), and the other guy is clearly much larger and becoming verbally confrontational with you and attempting to escalate with insults hurled at you… like “what are you going to do about it you little sh*t? Get lost! She needs a real man.” Etc. etc.. As a man what do you do that makes your woman feel safe but maintains your dignity?
In my presence? Obviously I’m going to confront him and let him know she’s taken, hopefully he was just unaware. If that doesn’t stop him, escalate accordingly from there as he’s choosing to deliberately disrespect you.
I start strutting around and this gorgeous plumage rises up from behind me
It shakes and rattles as I stand behind her and slightly off to the side
I bob my head up and down, screeching like a psycho until he either attacks and a battle ensues, or he retreats to his solitude
Then she says “Where did you get those feathers? Did you kill a fucking peacock??”
From your description I’m assuming the other guy knows I’m her boyfriend, and he chooses to be disrespectful. I’ll get comfortable and watch with amusement. His ego is about to get eviscerated with words.
1. She is a grown ass woman who is more than capable with interacting with other people all on her own.
2. She will let me know if I need to step in.
3. We have each others backs and trust each other.
He will figure it out that she is crazy and bring her back
She should deal with it, you only step in if there’s disrespect.
lol, what? Why do **you** need to “handle it”?
She always handles it for me. By saying “yeah, I’m with this dude here, fuck off”.
This happened to us at a wedding. Guy starts hitting on my wife (then Girlfriend).
I offer him outside. My wife is distraught thinking I’m going to fight the guy.
Lucky (for me) the hotel had a line of cabs waiting in the carpark… I walk out first… he (and everyone) thinks a fight is about to ensue…
I open the door of the cab… and gesture for him to enter. The cowardly shitbag gets in the car and I tell the driver “take this guy away for his own safety”.car drives off.
Was the closest thing to a “de Niro” moment I’ve ever had in my life.
Swat him with my glove and challenge him to a duel
There’s not one answer to this. Use your judgement. Just be present with her and read the situation. Err on the side of positivity and de-escalation…. doesn’t mean you have to lay down and be a doormat at all.
And honestly if a guy is really being inappropriate, just get the bouncers or whatnot to assist. And/or find a way to disengage with the guy. You never know what kind of crazy fuckers there are. All it takes is one blade, one sucker punch, one broken bottle. Why do you need to waste your time and increase your risk for some idiot meathead? He’ll get his, most likely.
I usually puff my chest and do my mating dance ritual to ward off other potential mates
I have a great story of this almost technically happening to me, but the shortened version is:
* this friend, who is not my girlfriend, and I are making out at a bar
* later, some guy approaches her, absolutely trying to shoot his shot
* she grabs my arm and replies, “No, this is my boyfriend.”
* I smiled so hard, but on the inside
This actually is related to how I got my first kiss, interestingly.
Flirt with the guy hard
One time I was at a bar with my girl. We had a table and I walked to the bar to get us another round and when I came back there was a dude trying to hit on her. He wasn’t being super forward. He was just trying to chat her up. Maybe he saw me with her, maybe he didn’t.
I walked up, said “Here’s your drink, babe.” Handed it to her, then gave her a kiss. Then I turned to dude, held out my hand and said, “Hey dude, how’s it going? I’m polkemans.”
He got real uncomfortable and excused himself pretty quickly.
Lol… Fucking grow up.
My partner can handle her own business.
If she needs help, she’ll ask.
Lol pull out the popcorn, my girls going to do something hilarious to the guy.
I spread my arms to appear larger to intimidate the guy. Then i move side to side while flapping my arms, scream “CUCKOO” and hypnotize them. Then my gf joins me and we are all good.
This kind of thing happened to me last week. My wife and her best friend went out for a couple drinks. When I went to pick her up they were telling me about some dude that was there earlier hitting on them both, but had left. 10 minutes later this guy walks back in but doesn’t see me until he’s standing at their table. When he sees me he says “Uh, nevermind” and walks away quickly. I don’t consider myself an intimidating person, but my wife said it was probably because of my resting dick face. Whatever it was it definitely made me feel like a bad ass.
I don’t. She does.
She doesn’t need me to handle anything for her, except clearing the drains and remove insects.
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Doesn’t bother me…She can handle herself, I trust her.
Imo, you don’t, she does.
Tell him thats your girlfriend. If he continues tell him to fuck off.
We usually con him to get us free drinks and sometimes food then do the Nelson laugh and point.
Unless she tells me, or shows me she needs help, I let her handle it. And I take the ego boost I guess?
So you mean he’s flirting with her right? Ok, first I’ll see how she handles it. If she let’s him know she’s spoken for and he politely leaves, then there’s no issue but if he persists, then I’ll step in and make my relationship with her very clear!
She does, unless he doesn’t take no for an answer.
Why would I have to deal with that?
You stand back and watch. If she doesn’t deal with it properly then you’re wasting your time with her.
My current wife is very soft spoken. Many years ago we were at a bar and she had gone to the bar itself to get a drink with one of our friends. A guy came up, offered to buy them drinks. They declined. He kept being pushy and the grind texted me. I was in a second room of the bar that was less bar and more dance floor. So I walk out and go up to her. He is laying it on thick. I asked if she was ok. She told me yes, but he was making her uncomfortable. He had already put a drink down for her.
So I drank it. I thanked him for the drink. And waited with her until she got the one she ordered.
She thanked me for it. She is generally too softspoken to stand up for herself.
I usually misintprete the situation and assume it’s someone she knows and introduce myself, then I find out later that he was just some random guy.
I observe in amusement.
Tell him to fuck off. My wife likes it when I’m a little “territorial” though.
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I pray for them. Guys approach my wife pretty frequently and they are in for a shock when they find out shes a straight psycho. But I love her!
IMO, I let her handle it as a grown woman. This actually happened and we spoke about it. Turns out she rather have me jump in and save her from the approach.
As a loving partner, I trust her, but these things actually requires a convo. What you think might not be what she wants.
My girlfriend deals with them.
My wife and I are at this sketch bar in the sticks. Pretty big place, and everyone looked shady af. Go to the bathroom, and when I come out, I see a dude trying to hand his number to my wife – and she was like “no”. As I walked toward him he kept pushing it, so I go up, take the piece of paper and whack him one. Turns out he was the owner. A massive brawl breaks out, and I get my wife to the car and we speed away, with like 10 mfrs chasing us on foot.
Good times.
I mean, its rude, but I can’t really complain. My girlfriend is cool with my wife, and I am not a hypocrite.
“You have excellent taste, sir. But I’m afraid I’m gonna have to ask you to back off”
I suck his dick to assert dominance
Serious question because this situation is very plausible: Your girlfriend respectfully but directly rejects the guy, saying “no thank you I’m with someone”. But he doesn’t respect her wishes and keeps on making advances, so she gets more defensive and rejects him more firmly, but that still doesn’t work, so she turns to you to intervene. But let’s say you’re not the biggest guy and have no intimidation factor (like you’re 5’5” and 140 lbs), and the other guy is clearly much larger and becoming verbally confrontational with you and attempting to escalate with insults hurled at you… like “what are you going to do about it you little sh*t? Get lost! She needs a real man.” Etc. etc.. As a man what do you do that makes your woman feel safe but maintains your dignity?
In my presence? Obviously I’m going to confront him and let him know she’s taken, hopefully he was just unaware. If that doesn’t stop him, escalate accordingly from there as he’s choosing to deliberately disrespect you.
I start strutting around and this gorgeous plumage rises up from behind me
It shakes and rattles as I stand behind her and slightly off to the side
I bob my head up and down, screeching like a psycho until he either attacks and a battle ensues, or he retreats to his solitude
Then she says “Where did you get those feathers? Did you kill a fucking peacock??”
From your description I’m assuming the other guy knows I’m her boyfriend, and he chooses to be disrespectful. I’ll get comfortable and watch with amusement. His ego is about to get eviscerated with words.
1. She is a grown ass woman who is more than capable with interacting with other people all on her own.
2. She will let me know if I need to step in.
3. We have each others backs and trust each other.
He will figure it out that she is crazy and bring her back
She should deal with it, you only step in if there’s disrespect.
lol, what? Why do **you** need to “handle it”?
She always handles it for me. By saying “yeah, I’m with this dude here, fuck off”.
This happened to us at a wedding. Guy starts hitting on my wife (then Girlfriend).
I offer him outside. My wife is distraught thinking I’m going to fight the guy.
Lucky (for me) the hotel had a line of cabs waiting in the carpark… I walk out first… he (and everyone) thinks a fight is about to ensue…
I open the door of the cab… and gesture for him to enter. The cowardly shitbag gets in the car and I tell the driver “take this guy away for his own safety”.car drives off.
Was the closest thing to a “de Niro” moment I’ve ever had in my life.
Swat him with my glove and challenge him to a duel
There’s not one answer to this. Use your judgement. Just be present with her and read the situation. Err on the side of positivity and de-escalation…. doesn’t mean you have to lay down and be a doormat at all.
And honestly if a guy is really being inappropriate, just get the bouncers or whatnot to assist. And/or find a way to disengage with the guy. You never know what kind of crazy fuckers there are. All it takes is one blade, one sucker punch, one broken bottle. Why do you need to waste your time and increase your risk for some idiot meathead? He’ll get his, most likely.
I usually puff my chest and do my mating dance ritual to ward off other potential mates
I have a great story of this almost technically happening to me, but the shortened version is:
* this friend, who is not my girlfriend, and I are making out at a bar
* later, some guy approaches her, absolutely trying to shoot his shot
* she grabs my arm and replies, “No, this is my boyfriend.”
* I smiled so hard, but on the inside
This actually is related to how I got my first kiss, interestingly.
Flirt with the guy hard
One time I was at a bar with my girl. We had a table and I walked to the bar to get us another round and when I came back there was a dude trying to hit on her. He wasn’t being super forward. He was just trying to chat her up. Maybe he saw me with her, maybe he didn’t.
I walked up, said “Here’s your drink, babe.” Handed it to her, then gave her a kiss. Then I turned to dude, held out my hand and said, “Hey dude, how’s it going? I’m polkemans.”
He got real uncomfortable and excused himself pretty quickly.
Lol… Fucking grow up.
My partner can handle her own business.
If she needs help, she’ll ask.
Lol pull out the popcorn, my girls going to do something hilarious to the guy.
I spread my arms to appear larger to intimidate the guy. Then i move side to side while flapping my arms, scream “CUCKOO” and hypnotize them. Then my gf joins me and we are all good.
This kind of thing happened to me last week. My wife and her best friend went out for a couple drinks. When I went to pick her up they were telling me about some dude that was there earlier hitting on them both, but had left. 10 minutes later this guy walks back in but doesn’t see me until he’s standing at their table. When he sees me he says “Uh, nevermind” and walks away quickly. I don’t consider myself an intimidating person, but my wife said it was probably because of my resting dick face. Whatever it was it definitely made me feel like a bad ass.
I don’t. She does.
She doesn’t need me to handle anything for her, except clearing the drains and remove insects.