Im 25F and ive genuinely only orgasmed during sex a handful of times and it was purely from my own intensive stimulation even though ive had 6 boyfriends and like 50+ sex partners. Main thing is i cant climax from penetration or oral. Only thing that does it is stimulating the clit w fingers outside or something thats stronger than a tongue, but men either dont care about me getting off or lose interest after seeing im having a hard time finishing and it makes me not want to have sex anymore.
W my current bf i literally do every single thing to make him feel good and make him finish multiple times an hour but the more i work hard the less work he puts in and recently he touches me less and as soon as i touch him he just stops and lays there enjoying himself and when hes inside me he finishes fast or goes on til hes satisfied and as i barely feel anything from penetration i feel disappointed every single time. He gets me rilled up only to finish and immediately lose interest in anything sexual for a while so he never cares about me finishing too if he already did and the same happens and happened with EVERY single guy i dated
Whats wrong w me and why do men not care to finish the woman off? so much talk ive heard about blue balls but when it comes to women it doesnt matter?
this thought has been driving me crazy to the point ive become disgusted at the idea of sex as it just feels like i give my body to the man to use for pleasure and then feel like i was taken advantage of. Its making me feel like i should just be completely asexual or avoid relationships in general to avoid having these shitty moments
Penetration barely gives me pleasure same with oral im also on SNRIS so its even harder BUT it takes me average time to get there by myself??
even when i show what feels good my partner seems to forget or doesnt focus on it instead just goes to doing what is arousing to him for example hes very into eating women out to the point its like a kink and i guess its other women's dream but i hate it i dont like how it feels the saliva the pressure is too little and the penis inside me never reaches any g spot (even w my ex whos size is 20 cm) so maybe its too far away? im not sure but its really sad i only feel pleasure from rubbing a single spot almost and no other person can get me there.
Is there anything i can do to help this situation as sometimes i feel like these experiences are making me lose interest in dating or having sex and even losing respect for men in general and it feels like having sex is a chore cause i know in the end i will just be annoyed and irritated and sad cause i would never leave my woman or man in bed if they didnt climax so why do men care so little??
worst part is sometimes he does try and probably for other women it would be enough its making me feel insecure and sad about my body as if its not working properly or is something wrong w my brain