So I'm looking for some advice on my relationship with my sister. She is Female, aged 38 and I am also Female, aged 34.
Background info on our relationship: my sister bullied me for all of our childhood, then left the country for about a decade. During this time, I heard very little from her, and the updates I did get were second-hand. She moved back about 5 years ago and since then, has acted like the family is her personal needs bank, wanting all of us to cater to her needs, but not wanting to have to give back or make space for our needs. We have gotten in a few ugly fights when we have conflicting needs-where my wants/needs are dismissed, and described as unreasonable, meanwhile hers are valid and expected to be met. The entire family aside from me is enabling this behavior.
After our last conflict, where my needs conflicted with hers, I got really angry and yelled at her. Since then, I have been labeled the "bad" one while she continues to victimize herself. Beyond that, she barely talks to me, except when she needs something. When I try to open the lines of communication and ask to talk, she ignores me, and yet still expects me to be available to her whenever she decides.
TL;DR I'm growing more and more frustrated and not sure what to do with my sister who only cares about her needs. Cutting her off completely is not an option, especially since my other family members follow her lead.
Any advice?