In a group of 3 at least I can come in with a punchline, be quick and outgoing and a conversation starter. As soon as I'm 1 on 1 with someone, it's like I just lose it. I become quiet and anti social. I lose all the jokes. I don't know what to talk about. Everything in my brain just stops working and I become extremely silent. Is there any tips on how I can be better at this and also what could I even talk about?
It's the same thing when I'm drunk. It doesn't really get better. People just see me as very sociable at parties because I work well in groups and when I talk to people 1 on 1 at parties, I stay at one place and speak with one person for no longer than 5-10 minutes and then I'm off to some other group group because I loose all the interesting conversation topics. It's like I'm more of a reactor and can riff off groups but have nothing on my own. How can I be more active in a conversation rather than a reactive chime in jokster when I'm 1 on 1 with people…?
Any tips are welcomed