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  2. Better this week, stress levels are down. few losses at work, a few big wins.

    more annoyance this week.

    struggling from the past month of work and in need of a break and some down time. 1 more day and I get to relax and focus on myself and my family.

  3. Honestly, this phase of life is tougher than I expected.

    I lost my job a few months ago, and the search since then has started affecting my confidence more than I thought it would. I had an interview recently that went well, but I might have to take close to a 17% pay cut just to get back working again. Hard not to let that mess with your head a bit.

    I recently started escitalopram for anxiety too, so I am still adjusting to that mentally and physically.

    I also still think about someone I dated for about a year. It is strange how some people continue occupying space in your mind long after things end.

    But I am trying to keep moving forward instead of shutting down. Still going to the gym, applying for jobs, doing therapy, and trying not to isolate myself too much.

    I turn 41 next week and honestly I am not even sure what I want to do for it or how to celebrate it this year. Feels like I am in a weird in-between stage in life right now.

    Hopefully this too shall pass.

  5. Annoyed. Trying to find motivation for doing anything. At a rough time in life right now, with job situation sucking, trying to figure out a way to get a proper side hustle going but all of them seem like BS. Been pretty angry and upset every day since Friday, but still hitting my personal goals and exercising and what not. Had my BDAY last week, and that was OK, but now I feel old and lost despite the things I have already accomplished and what not. Hoping this will pass

  6. After being perfectly find not dating for years (dealt with to much rejection and heartbreak in the past) I find I have lately been chatting up with girls at work often.

    -One girl I’ve been talking to more about our personal lives, she cute but I haven’t really gotten any signs of interest. She does seem very happy to see me when I come in.

    -Another girl I’ve been talking to rarely seemed to get close when some of us out for drinks last Friday she was leaning on me constantly and has talked to me more at work since then. She’s cute and used to have a boyfriend but I’m mostly sure they broke up.

    -Finally one lady at work who has always been a little extra friendly was super happy I left her some flowers (left over after an event so I left them on her desk) she said she should get my cell number and that I was more than “just a pretty face”. She’s married and I don’t really want to try anything but from talking to her I get the vibe she is flirting. She’s probably in her 40s and I’m just about to be 33 so I’m curious what’s going on. I know she’s told she has some issues with her husband. She is very hot and I love the attention.

    This is all in the span of a couple weeks. I rarely get attention from girls and while the first girl I definitely think nothing is really going on the other two have me very intrigued. I don’t really know what I’m doing but I’m going to enjoy the attention I guess. I could just be wanting to be wanted and imagining things but is that so bad?

  7. Last fall I (as a single guy) did the dumb thing and got feelings for a married coworker. I never really believed in soul mates, but if such a thing exists, it’d be her. I’ve never felt so seen by anyone in my life, and the complicated part is that she reciprocated those same feelings for me. What unfolded was a blatant month-long emotional affair before I drew some firm boundaries limiting most communication to the workplace aside from the odd activity picture or if we need help with something. We just work in the same building and not on the same team which makes it a bit easier.

    It’s been almost 7 months now and those feelings are still there for both of us. We don’t talk about it anymore, but you can just tell from the body language.

    This sucks man. There’s nothing to be done but move on. I hoped I’d be long past this by now, but it’s all still fresh and right there every time I see her.

    I know all I need it more time, but I wish time would go faster right now.

  8. Hey fellas. About 6 weeks out from a 4+ year LTR breakup… she moved out 6 days after. I planned to propose later this summer. 

    Have been having serious bouts of anxiety and some passive suicidal thoughts, so I reached out to my doc to start Prozac again. Was on it for about 3 years from 2019-2022 and I think it helped more than I realized as I’m now recognizing how much my anxiety ruled my part in the relationship. 

    Praying that this helps and that things get better. 

  10. Been with my girl for 6 years and never once really cared about other women or even felt interested in getting to know anyone else like that.
    Then a few months ago a new girl started on our team and the second I saw her, something in my brain immediately went “oh, I’m screwed.”
    Started off innocent enough. Just little conversations at work whenever we crossed paths. Slowly became one of the people I looked forward to talking to most during the day.
    Then life decided to make things even messier.
    She ended up needing a place to rent because she was getting kicked out, and coincidentally we had rooms available and needed a roommate.
    So now I’m somehow living with both my longtime girlfriend and my work crush under the same roof. Honestly feels like the universe wrote this situation specifically to test me psychologically.

  11. Things are pretty tough right now. My marriage is on the rocks in a very bad way. I still love her and still have hope that we can fix it but I think that might just be denial on my part. My wife is severely avoidant and doesn’t seem able to do any serious work on her side of things. If things do fall apart I have no idea what to do.

    On top of that, the other day I found out that my granny is dying. She’s in her 90s and has had a good run and is ready to go, but she practically raised me for a big chunk of my childhood and without her I don’t think I’d be here today so it’s hitting me pretty hard. She lives a few hours away so I’m not sure how much I’m going to be able to see her in the time she has left.

    All in all, I’m fuckin tired and I’m not sure how many more kicks I can take. Guess I’ll just keep putting one foot in front of the other for now.

  14. Eh. My therapist suggested today that I might have “Illness Anxiety Disorder” or “Somatic Symptom Disorder” because I’m constantly so anxious about my health – my sciatica coming back, my blood pressure issues, my fear of developing an ulcer, etc. When I got my ADHD diagnosis it felt kinda enlightening or uplifting. This… not so much

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