So for starters I have social anxiety too but she has it way worse than I do. She always says she wants more friends and to meet more people but whenever I bring her around my friends she is as quiet as a mouse. It makes me feel almost physically ill (dramatic but I am very prone to second hand anxiety) bc I know how she feels. It’s uncomfortable for my other friends even though they are very nice to her, she just comes across as very very cold and rude.
The issue is: she asks to be included but when I do include her she comes across as very rude and I wish I could tell her that. I obviously can’t bc that would backfire but idk what to do, it really stresses me out and I don’t have fun when we are around other people bc I’m worried about her the whole time.