For others with social anxiety, anyone feel more comfortable staying the hell away from human beings rather than constantly wonder what is expected of me in any social situation? It might be a dark question but I wonder if anyone else identifies with this?
"Hell is other people."
Jean-Paul Sartre
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Being around people just drains me, I find it so hard to connect with anybody. I like one-on-one time with somebody that I can trust, or at least feel like there’s a chance of a true relationship building.
Even then I can only handle those interactions once or twice a week.
I’m 34 now and there have been plenty of times that I socialized quite a bit for months or years on end. But where I’m at now in life I keep my circle very small and enjoy my solitary peace.
Yes.
I used to feel this way. But at some point I realized how empty I felt. I still enjoy my alone time, but I need other people.
There was one day at my work where I was the most at peace I’d been in since my time working there. I was actually wondering what the difference was that day. Suddenly near the end of the day my department manager came and asked me to come to my GM’s office. All the other managers were there. They kindly told me that everyone was avoiding me because of my BO that day.
There are some days when I can not talk to a single person all day and I’ll be at peace. I prefer not to talk to anyone when I go to the gym.
So, yeah.
Avoidance increases anxiety. The key to resolving social anxiety is to make slow, small changes regularly and lean into the discomfort of learning to be around people.
I hate solitude more than anything. So lonely. Comfortable but it feels like shit.
I also hate socialising. Feel so lost.
Social anxiety is fear getting judged. Nobody cares. Make that small talk.