For some context, I(22M) have been exploring new sexual acts with my girlfriend (21F), and it’s all Ben fun but I’m a bit lost. She has expressed interest in being dominated, and wants me to supply that for her. Shes not telling me in a sense that I’m lacking, rather just expressing to me what she’s into and her turn ons.
My only issue is, while I’ve found a plethora of information on what to do, never how to actually get comfortable doing these things. I don’t know what I should do in order to feel confident doing these things. I’ve had fantasies of the things she asks for, like spanking, degradation, CNC, dirty talking and so on. We have both expressed interest in this as well and also talked about this for a while now.
I know she’s into this sort of stuff, and I am too, and I also wanna be more dominant, but I feel bad, even in a controlled sense. She’s asking for me to be a bit rough, she’s asking for me to talk to her dirty, command her, and be in control, but as she’s my first sexual partner, it feels very degrading in a true sense, not just for fun in the bedroom. I know there’s a difference between role play and reality, but when she’s asking for certain things, I can’t discern the two. What should I do to overcome this mindset I have?