I and my husband got married three years ago. After we got married, I resigned and I moved to his country of residence, where we lived with his mother. Four months later, I had to relocate back home because of his enmeshment with the mother. Turned out I was already pregnant with our daughter and throughout my pregnancy and until now I am staying in my home country. I resumed my career and got my life back. I attempted to file for divorce a few times, but gave him a few chances to be a family on a condition that he has to relocate to be with his wife and daughter. For the context, he is a hotel owner that is only open during the season May-August. Other than that he has no full-time job, but keeps saying that he has to take care of other businesses – he takes care of family properties. During his last visit, he stayed with us for 5 months from late September until March (non-season). And even then kept saying he needed to go back, that he could not stay with us. Overall, over the last 2 years, he only spent with us 6 months total. I am a primary caregiver and provider for our daughter.
I filed for divorce a month ago and now my husband keeps accusing me of depriving him of his daughter, although he is not present in her life anyway. He is convinced that video calls can substitute his presence and makes him a good father. In case of emergencies, I am the only one to take care of our kid – my family members also live abroad so I am on my own.
Need another perspective and unbiased opinions about this situation.