I'm going to try and make this brief, as I'm still in the process of figuring out where my anxiety about intimacy stems from.
As mentioned above, I have intimacy issues (35w). Mainly, that I freeze during sex.
I've noticed that I seem to love touching and my body craves it when I'm kissing a man or if I'm generally interesting in them, and my body/ brain is completely fine up until I know it's leading somewhere. At that point, I can physically feel my brain take over, start to panic, overthink, by which point my body starts to shut down. I can definitely elaborate with what happens here if context is needed for my main question.
Which is; can/ how do you introduce Sensate Focus therapy or techniques to a man who you have only started dating and done nothing but kiss? Real trust hasn't yet been created.
I understand that this is one of the core principles with this type of therapy, but If it's not appropriate to try it without said trust, then I'm not sure how I can get truly get past my intimacy issues when trying to date.
I do currently go to therapy, as I appreciate there are lots of ways to try and understand and resolve my issues so I'm not really interested in discussing all of the different types of psychiatric 'help' here. My main interest is other peoples understanding and experience with Sensate Focused therapy.