Not in the “I miss them” way. More like they randomly pop into your head and you don’t particularly feel anything.
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Less and less, once a month maybe every few months
All day. We had a difficult ending and he died before it was officially over after 20 years. October he died.
Currently every day, hoping it will fade with time …
Constantly. All day every day. I’m tormented by it.
And its totally in an I miss you way.
Which one??
The first? Hardly ever. I talk to his wife often though. Love her.
The second? A lot. We’re still friends. He still has our cat. I’m still friends with his entire immediate family.
The third? Only when I drive by his old job and stick my middle finger ridiculously high.
The fourth? Often but never in the “I miss you way” but in the “I’m glad you’re bald and your head is ugly and lopsided” way.
I have dreams sometimes randomly about my exes. I have zero feelings for them they just pop up randomly lmao more like a nightmare I can’t escape
Not a lot, we still communicate sometimes. He’s a pretty awesome dude!
I don’t think there’s a time where he’s not on my mind in someway shape or form. It could be a nice day and I’d think I wish I was spending it with him, it could be raining and I’d wish we were walking or driving in it. I wore a newish dress today I think he would have liked and I wished he could have seen it to get his thoughts. I am going to the gym at the moment and I wish he could help me with my progress on it. I see my bank cards and I wish he was helping me with my budget, I see the same car as his everywhere I look and wish it was him. So a lot
Every few minutes most of the day. It’s worst at night. Been split coming up on 2 years now.
I’m used to thinking about him all the time now and suspect it won’t go away. I’m at peace with that.
I have 3 children with my ex husband so I think about him to some degree multiple times a day. Not in any kind of longing way, just in general.
My ex fiance works at the same place I do. We parted ways several years ago and on the random occasion that we cross paths I’ll often realize I hadn’t thought of him in (days, weeks, etc).
Everyday at least once and few times a week in the “I miss him” kind of way
Rarely, thankfully
Daily. Multiple times daily.
We have 3 kids and we do often align on stuff or just pass on information about the kids.
I have 0 romantic thoughts about her.
In fact I enjoyed my Saturday with her and a few of her friends at her BF.
I wanted to come visit. He has cute small pet pigs.
I think it all comes down to why you think about the person. Thinking about an ex is not inherently a bad thing.
Not often. Once in a blue moon an ex will pop in my head and I’m like “oh yeah so and so did that”
Most days unfortunately, even after a year and a half. It doesn’t hurt as much as it used to though. It’s been a lot more difficult to move on from than a normal break up because he ghosted me after 4 years together. I didn’t get any closure from him.
Every day still 😅 after 3 years. In a missing him way and a random pop into my head way. I’ve had a whole other boyfriend and break up since then. I think about my most recent ex daily too, but I don’t miss him at all, I’m just still healing.
Never. One perk of ADHD – out of sight, out of mind 😂
Let’s not bring that up please 🙂↔️
I’m just dreading the next time he will try to contact me, and that’s mostly when I think about him. He has problems.
frequently. was the first guy i ever really loved and hid something big the whole time, ended badly. i was busy for the first year after the breakup finishing school and starting a new job full time and going back to school, but now that im in the routine of everything i think about him daily, probably more than once most days. i don’t miss him, i just never processed his absence after i left i guess
Zero.
I dont think of him on any type of regular basis, but its usually when I’m gossiping about the past with other women. More of an “ew, well my ex….” The more time that has passed, the more I remember the memories that he was a part of more from just my point of view and less of an us point of view. I would sat it drastically decreases ever year, and this year so far, maybe twice before now.
Once a month or so. Mostly with a mental shake of my head about how silly I was.
Used to be every day – almost compulsively many times throughout the day.
Now, 7 years later, I only think of him when he comes up in conversation or something triggers a memory. We had a messy break up but I remember him with indifference now.
Several times a week. He was abusive and sexually violent leaving me deeply scarred with ptsd. We are well over 10 years apart, but I still dream of him and the abuse several times a week.
Everyday but I think I’m still traumatised due to the fact he was abusive. I’m now happily married to my dream dream guy but still in therapy which will end well how long is a piece of string
Any time something really good happens in my life I reflect on how thankful I am for the partner I currently have and think about how vastly different and negative it would be if I stayed with any of my exes.
Who?
We only broke up 2 months ago and it was because we loved each other a lot but didn’t think our life goals matched enough. It was horrible, he said he thinks losing me will be the biggest regret of his life. The past two weeks it’s gotten a lot easier and I don’t cry as much, but I still think of him multiple times a day. I can just hope it continues to slowly decrease. I wish him well he’s an incredible person.
A few times a week in a “I hope life is cruel to him” type of way
The most recent one? Multiple times a day. We were wildly attracted to and obsessed with each other, and made perfect sense on paper, but were painfully incompatible in real life. Why couldn’t he just be the guy I thought he was? I need to stop thinking about him.
The one I was with for 10 years and married to? From time to time. Whenever I see something about a show we used to watch together, or see a gift he gave me. We’re on OK terms and text occasionally.
My “first love?” Almost never. He sucks.
There’s a few that pop in my head a couple times a month and I hope they’re doing ok. Not that I want to get back with them, just that I hope their adult lives are going well.
everyday, multiple times a day. its been 11 months, i want it gone. im over it, but obviously it did hurt me, and i think i associate anything love/pain related to that and it makes me remember him. which i think those are prevalent daily feelings, i do my best. i just wish i knew when or how to make it stop.
I’ve had 1 serious boyfriend. He dumped me out of the blue in March 2025. I have had a hard time getting him to leave my mind and mourning the friends I lost when I lost him. It took till about month 10 post break up for me to feel more in control and less lost.
Something that helped me move forward was reflecting on how much I (myself) can change in a week if I work on myself.
And I was really holding on to a past version of these people that no longer exists in my reality. And I was exhausted from getting pulled back into memories.
Wrote it down put it in front of my face on my bedroom wall , a stinky note that says
“ that version of them / that doesn’t exist anymore “
Helped me tremendously, and I love the person I’ve grown into since that breakup, and truly those people never came back into my life and I don’t bump into them.
If anyone is going through it work on healing , you can do it ❤️
35 comments
Less and less, once a month maybe every few months
All day. We had a difficult ending and he died before it was officially over after 20 years. October he died.
Currently every day, hoping it will fade with time …
Constantly. All day every day. I’m tormented by it.
And its totally in an I miss you way.
Which one??
The first? Hardly ever. I talk to his wife often though. Love her.
The second? A lot. We’re still friends. He still has our cat. I’m still friends with his entire immediate family.
The third? Only when I drive by his old job and stick my middle finger ridiculously high.
The fourth? Often but never in the “I miss you way” but in the “I’m glad you’re bald and your head is ugly and lopsided” way.
I have dreams sometimes randomly about my exes. I have zero feelings for them they just pop up randomly lmao more like a nightmare I can’t escape
Not a lot, we still communicate sometimes. He’s a pretty awesome dude!
I don’t think there’s a time where he’s not on my mind in someway shape or form. It could be a nice day and I’d think I wish I was spending it with him, it could be raining and I’d wish we were walking or driving in it. I wore a newish dress today I think he would have liked and I wished he could have seen it to get his thoughts. I am going to the gym at the moment and I wish he could help me with my progress on it. I see my bank cards and I wish he was helping me with my budget, I see the same car as his everywhere I look and wish it was him. So a lot
Every few minutes most of the day. It’s worst at night. Been split coming up on 2 years now.
I’m used to thinking about him all the time now and suspect it won’t go away. I’m at peace with that.
I have 3 children with my ex husband so I think about him to some degree multiple times a day. Not in any kind of longing way, just in general.
My ex fiance works at the same place I do. We parted ways several years ago and on the random occasion that we cross paths I’ll often realize I hadn’t thought of him in (days, weeks, etc).
Everyday at least once and few times a week in the “I miss him” kind of way
Rarely, thankfully
Daily. Multiple times daily.
We have 3 kids and we do often align on stuff or just pass on information about the kids.
I have 0 romantic thoughts about her.
In fact I enjoyed my Saturday with her and a few of her friends at her BF.
I wanted to come visit. He has cute small pet pigs.
I think it all comes down to why you think about the person. Thinking about an ex is not inherently a bad thing.
Not often. Once in a blue moon an ex will pop in my head and I’m like “oh yeah so and so did that”
Most days unfortunately, even after a year and a half. It doesn’t hurt as much as it used to though. It’s been a lot more difficult to move on from than a normal break up because he ghosted me after 4 years together. I didn’t get any closure from him.
Every day still 😅 after 3 years. In a missing him way and a random pop into my head way. I’ve had a whole other boyfriend and break up since then. I think about my most recent ex daily too, but I don’t miss him at all, I’m just still healing.
Never. One perk of ADHD – out of sight, out of mind 😂
Let’s not bring that up please 🙂↔️
I’m just dreading the next time he will try to contact me, and that’s mostly when I think about him. He has problems.
frequently. was the first guy i ever really loved and hid something big the whole time, ended badly. i was busy for the first year after the breakup finishing school and starting a new job full time and going back to school, but now that im in the routine of everything i think about him daily, probably more than once most days. i don’t miss him, i just never processed his absence after i left i guess
Zero.
I dont think of him on any type of regular basis, but its usually when I’m gossiping about the past with other women. More of an “ew, well my ex….” The more time that has passed, the more I remember the memories that he was a part of more from just my point of view and less of an us point of view. I would sat it drastically decreases ever year, and this year so far, maybe twice before now.
Once a month or so. Mostly with a mental shake of my head about how silly I was.
Used to be every day – almost compulsively many times throughout the day.
Now, 7 years later, I only think of him when he comes up in conversation or something triggers a memory. We had a messy break up but I remember him with indifference now.
Several times a week. He was abusive and sexually violent leaving me deeply scarred with ptsd. We are well over 10 years apart, but I still dream of him and the abuse several times a week.
Everyday but I think I’m still traumatised due to the fact he was abusive. I’m now happily married to my dream dream guy but still in therapy which will end well how long is a piece of string
Any time something really good happens in my life I reflect on how thankful I am for the partner I currently have and think about how vastly different and negative it would be if I stayed with any of my exes.
Who?
We only broke up 2 months ago and it was because we loved each other a lot but didn’t think our life goals matched enough. It was horrible, he said he thinks losing me will be the biggest regret of his life. The past two weeks it’s gotten a lot easier and I don’t cry as much, but I still think of him multiple times a day. I can just hope it continues to slowly decrease. I wish him well he’s an incredible person.
A few times a week in a “I hope life is cruel to him” type of way
The most recent one? Multiple times a day. We were wildly attracted to and obsessed with each other, and made perfect sense on paper, but were painfully incompatible in real life. Why couldn’t he just be the guy I thought he was? I need to stop thinking about him.
The one I was with for 10 years and married to? From time to time. Whenever I see something about a show we used to watch together, or see a gift he gave me. We’re on OK terms and text occasionally.
My “first love?” Almost never. He sucks.
There’s a few that pop in my head a couple times a month and I hope they’re doing ok. Not that I want to get back with them, just that I hope their adult lives are going well.
everyday, multiple times a day. its been 11 months, i want it gone. im over it, but obviously it did hurt me, and i think i associate anything love/pain related to that and it makes me remember him. which i think those are prevalent daily feelings, i do my best. i just wish i knew when or how to make it stop.
I’ve had 1 serious boyfriend. He dumped me out of the blue in March 2025. I have had a hard time getting him to leave my mind and mourning the friends I lost when I lost him. It took till about month 10 post break up for me to feel more in control and less lost.
Something that helped me move forward was reflecting on how much I (myself) can change in a week if I work on myself.
And I was really holding on to a past version of these people that no longer exists in my reality. And I was exhausted from getting pulled back into memories.
Wrote it down put it in front of my face on my bedroom wall , a stinky note that says
“ that version of them / that doesn’t exist anymore “
Helped me tremendously, and I love the person I’ve grown into since that breakup, and truly those people never came back into my life and I don’t bump into them.
If anyone is going through it work on healing , you can do it ❤️