Boyfriend (22 M) and I (25 F) have been together for a year. Our relationship is really special and nothing compared to anything we’ve ever had before. It might sound cheesy but we feel spiritually connected. Our sex has been amazing ever since we’ve gotten together. Nothing like I’ve ever experienced. He can make me cum with his nose, fingers and his dick. We’re both really open with trying new things and we’re very comfortable and safe with eachother. Unfortunately things changed about a month and a half ago. He asked me “the question” how many people I had been with. We had kinda talked about this in the beginning and said that it didn’t matter to us. But I was honest and told him 6. He lost his shit. He has not been happy about how many people I’ve been with (he’s been with 2) and says it keeps affecting him. So about a month and a half ago during sex he went soft during sex and told me afterwards he couldn’t help but think about my past and how it was bothering him. We typically have sex 3x a day. Then I noticed this started happening more. Especially in the mornings when we usually have the best sex. It’s kind of become an issue because it makes me feel self conscious and him embarrassed. He says it has NOTHING to do with my past and that it only bothered him that one time. He went to the doctor for this the other day and all she really had to say is that it all might be in his head. I’m wondering if it might be one of his medications he’s been taking for back pain (one of them is a muscle relaxer) or if he’s thinking about my past. I know I can’t get in his head but it’s pretty depressing going from amazing sex to him going soft so he has to cum in 30 seconds just so we can have sex. And I know we’re both attracted to each other. We’re both athletes, fit and in shape and obsessed with each other.
Has this happened to you? Any tips or suggestions?