Tl:dr my brother is impulsive and refuses to take responsibility.
I’m worried my brother is heading down the wrong path and will screw up everything he’s worked for.
He doesn’t care about consequences and when he does face them he blames everyone else for his problems. He refuses to reflect and thinks he’s always in the right.
Heads up that my brother has adhd and refuses to take his medication.
For example, his school does a chocolate sale where students are given a box of chocolates they sell to other students. The funds are meant to go to the school but he took the cash to spend it on who knows what and the school proceeded to block him from prom(and possibly graduation) until he pays them back. He spent all his money and can’t pay them back.
Apparently a kid from school talked some smack and he wants to fight the kid because “I’m not a doormat” despite everyone telling him he’s now a legal adult and the law doesn’t care about his pride.
He wants to go to Europe with an orchestra this summer but with the way he’s been acting the school might remove him from the lineup. Our parents paid over $5,000 for his trip but he doesn’t care. He thinks the school won’t do anything despite everyone saying otherwise.
He got several tickets for his reckless driving(which includes going 90 in a 40) and my parents had to get a lawyer for him. He kept saying it wasn’t a big deal and that he’s “actually a great driver”.
He has so many opportunities and he keeps squandering them over the stupidest stuff.
He’s one month from graduating and wants to go to college, but he’s getting more reckless. I don’t want him to throw away his and my parents hard work. I’m not around a lot due to my schooling and I don’t know what to do.
What can I do to make him realize his choices have consequences?